Moving in with a partner is always a massive adjustment. You have to learn how to share a space, divide the chores, and navigate the incredibly awkward conversations about money. But adding an unexpected pregnancy into the mix after less than a year of dating takes the stress to an entirely different level. One expectant mother recently took to Reddit to share a deeply infuriating story about her boyfriend, and his completely unhinged financial demands are leaving the internet speechless.
The Original Poster is a twenty six year old woman who works in the tech industry. She currently lives with her twenty six year old boyfriend. The timeline of their relationship is definitely moving at lightning speed. They have only been together for ten months in total and just moved into their shared apartment. Because they are still a relatively new couple, they smartly decided to keep all of their finances completely separate. They divide their rent and daily bills right down the middle.
Thanks to her nice job in tech, the Original Poster brings home a little bit more money than her boyfriend. He works a standard day job with a decent salary, but he recently picked up a side hustle. He spends his evenings doing food deliveries through a popular app. He claims he does it because he genuinely enjoys driving around, but the real motivation is to earn some extra pocket money to fund his personal hobbies. Right now, he is desperately trying to save up enough cash to build himself a custom gaming PC.
The situation took a turn when the Original Poster found out she was pregnant. Growing a human being is absolutely exhausting work. Because she is currently battling pregnancy fatigue, she is often way too tired to cook dinner at the end of the day. To make her life a little easier, she started ordering her own meals through the exact same delivery app her boyfriend works for. Sometimes a random stranger picks up her order, and sometimes the app assigns the delivery straight to her boyfriend.
When a random courier drops off her dinner, she obviously tips them for their service. But when her own boyfriend walks through the front door carrying her food, she does not hand him a tip. This completely logical decision absolutely enraged him. The last few times he delivered her dinner, he got genuinely upset with her. He looked at his pregnant girlfriend and seriously demanded she hand him a little bit of extra cash for himself just for doing his side gig.
From his highly skewed perspective, she is robbing him of potential earnings. He whined that it is simply not fair because she makes more money than him anyway. He tried to trap her in a web of weird logic by pointing out that she would gladly tip any other driver, so she should be tipping him too. He is completely ignoring the fact that any other driver is a random stranger trying to pay their rent, not the father of her unborn child trying to buy a graphics card.
The Original Poster refused to back down and pointed out the glaring financial reality of their situation. If she tips him, she is literally just handing him money to put toward his shiny new gaming PC. Meanwhile, she is currently the only one actually opening her wallet to buy all the essential items for their incoming baby. All of her extra cash at the end of every month is going straight toward diapers, cribs, and baby supplies while he contributes next to nothing.
The confrontation eventually reached a boiling point. During a heated argument about the tipping situation, the boyfriend dropped the ultimate toxic masculinity line. He looked at the woman carrying his child and accused her of not respecting him as a man. Unable to handle the reality check, he threw a massive temper tantrum. He dramatically stormed out of their shared apartment and proceeded to send her a really nasty text message from wherever he went to pout.
The Original Poster added a crucial edit just to clarify how ridiculous his demands truly are. This delivery gig is not paying for his survival. It is not his primary source of income. He has a full time job and earns a decent salary. He is literally just harassing his pregnant girlfriend for a few extra dollars to fund his gaming hobby while completely ignoring the financial reality of having a newborn on the way.
The internet was absolutely floored by his audacity. You do not demand a tip from your pregnant partner for bringing her a meal. A real partner would see she is too tired to cook, turn off the delivery app, and go pick up the food for her simply because he loves her. If he wants to be respected as a man, he needs to start acting like a father. Throwing a fit over delivery change while your girlfriend single handedly funds your child’s nursery is beyond embarrassing.
I THINK YOU SHOULD CHARGE HIM FOR ‘CARRYING’ HIS CHILD. He sounds like a very immature person, and , sadly, I see problems ahead for you two.