Why do I feel like I need to be “busy” all the time, but also hate being busy?

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So, lately I’ve noticed this weird thing where I feel this constant pressure to be busy, like if I’m not doing something productive, I’m wasting time. But then, when I’m actually busy, I’m overwhelmed, exhausted, and really wish I could just relax.

I can’t decide if I’m just weird or if anyone else feels this way. Does anyone else get this weird mix of guilt for not doing enough, but also dread doing too much? Am I alone here?

(I swear, if I didn’t feel this way, I’d probably just be taking naps all day lol)

Comments

  1. Sandmint Avatar

    Rest is productive. Put it on your calendar! If you’re intentional about a late wake up time, a nap, couch time, etc., you’ve accomplished a task by relaxing.

  2. MountainMuffin1980 Avatar

    What was your upbringing/most impactful relationship like? Taking time for yourself for hobbies is fine and healthy

  3. avid-learner-bot Avatar

    Right! It’s a feeling I reckon a lot of people experience… That constant pressure to do, paired with a deep need to just… stop. Scheduling downtime. Like, making it an actual appointment. That might help, I think… because sometimes, allowing yourself to relax feels like admitting defeat, and that’s ridiculous. I feel ya, honestly… it’d be kinda nice to just nap all day, wouldn’t it?