So, needless to say, I feel super weird about this one. If you check out the post I made on autistic women, some other women describe our sexuality or “almost ace” style better than I can.
There’s a much younger man who seems to be attracted to me. I’m basically celibate out of principle at this point (it’s been like six years since I’ve had sex).
You and I are both here contending with this one because the taboo does make it feel erotic. It’s kinky to admit to myself that it could be fun if we both had an honest chat about what we’d be getting ourselves into (more as an affair or fling).
I slept with a much OLDER man once in the spirit of liberating my mind (it was a 30 year age gap 🥲) and years later I threw up it grossed me out so much. So. All of that’s to say: I probably will not be fucking around and finding out with this one, but I do still want to gut check…
Is it immoral? Seems like the power dynamics + life experiences are so different that it’d be pretty creepy to act on something like this. Is it? Or is it just a kinky normal enough taboo or thing people get into?
EDIT: You’re glorious. Emboldening and thoughtful. Fun!
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Dude no one cares. People do this all the time. Plus you’re a woman you can get this anytime you want. Just go fuck him already 🤦
Are you going to live your life by the Morality of others?
You realise you’ve got finate time on earth right?
Live how you want.
It’s so funny, cause the comment would be so hateful if the genders were swapped.
But yea 2 adults having concentual sex is normal.
As long as it’s consensual in both parties, i don’t think there’s an issue. You’re both there to get off and have some fun, and if you both understand that’s all there is to it, then go have fun.
No. Go for it.
tbh ure almost 40 and hes in his mid twenties so i think its weird, i was also in a huge age gap relationship with an older man and its wrong. and people wont react so nicely if they ever find out, ive recieved awful comments in public so yeah, i think its not worth it but u do u, just because something is legal doesnt make it right and many of us had to find out the hard way
For goodness’ sake, you’re both adults. This isn’t high school where people are segregated into grades.
He’s an adult, you’re an adult, if you’re both consenting there is nothing immoral about that.
He’s an adult, don’t worry about it
Well, he’s not barely legal. He’s nearly in his mid 20s. So you don’t seem predatory or whatever. I don’t know what this guy is like, but I think its fine. Things I’d scope out before going through with it however is level of mental maturity & level of respect he has for both women & women who are older than him
I had older friends with benefits when I was in my early twenties. It was a lot of fun for us!
The power dynamic thing you’re worried about isn’t really a concern if you want a hookup. If it’s an ongoing thing then it’s relevant, especially if it’s romantic.
Not immoral, but if you have doubts, then do not do it.
You’re both adults, no one cares what you’re doing.
He’s an adult! Go with the Campfire Rule: be mindful of what you’re doing and leave him better than you found him! The fact that you’re wary of power dynamics here indicates you’ll be fine.
If you knew that he was legal (for instance he works at a place you have to be 21 to work, so a bar) but had no idea his age, what would you do?
If fucking another adult makes you feel kinky and excited, why are you not doing it already? The fuck do you want the approval of the internet for when you could be currently fucking?
Legal age and consent- have at it!
NO
If you have to ask…
No, if you are a women. A creep if you are a men.
So, go for it.
My wife is 8 years older than I am – we met when I was 35 and she was 43. We’ve been married for almost 21 years.
No, it’s fine, regardless of genders.
Not at all immoral.
You’re both consenting adults.
Have at it and let the haters stew in their shitty jocks. 😁👍
Why do you think you might be immoral? Did you used to teach him in school when both of you were younger?
Potential hot take here, but no adult that has consensual sex with another adult that is not a family member is not a victim.
Oh my… nothing immoral about that. Two people can love each other indifferent from age
Not immoral at all. Some folks love age gaps, some people hate them, others don’t care. You do you. You’re just having sex- not getting married and comingling your lives.
As a former young guy myself, I can tell you for a fact that a lot of young guys out there would probably give their left nut to have the horny older woman experience. If you find this dude appealing, GO FOR IT! If he rocks your world, go for it AGAIN.
On behalf of young men everywhere, I tip my glass to you, madam. And thank you.
You are both of legal age so what would be immoral about it? As long as you both are honest about what you want from the relationship there should be no problem
It’s not inherently immoral, it’s just that these types of relationships have a high chance of being immoral.
As the full blown life experienced person here it’s your responsibility to not forget what the relationship actually is, to remember that this experience is going to comprise a much larger percentage of the younger person’s life than it does your own, and above all to remember the rule to leave them in better emotional and mental health than they entered the relationship with you in. These are all just kind of normal responsibilities older people should always have with younger people it’s just especially true in relationships.
I don’t think it’s immoral for 2 consenting adults to hook up. It is different when there is a significant power imbalance like if jobs or money were involved. But 2 adults otherwise unrelated to each other is fair game. A lot of people have an age gap kink, and 13 years isn’t the worst I’ve heard of
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36/2 =18, 18+7=25
It’s immoral but legal. But then again it’s called cougar hunting.
So you do you.
Probably not immoral but definitely a uncomfortable age gap with him being in his early 20s and you in late 30s. 13 is still kinda bad but that 30 years is almost doubled as bad
I’ve done this. 10/10 would recommend for two consenting adults. It’s not just hot for you, it is for him too. A lot of guys in their early 20s totally have a thing for women around 40.
Depends on who your critics are. But that Dude is going to have some interesting convos with his bros.
No
Hope this helps
You are both adults. Go for it. Enjoy!
Girl, get yours! As long as you two are open and honest, go for it!
It’s so flattering to be hit on by younger men as an older 30s woman myself.
Eh half your age plus 7 is generally the rule I’ve heard. Immoral? No not at all.
I can say that for myself (34f) ain’t no way im messing around with someone in their early 20s.
You are both adults, so whatever you want
Do what you want, you’re both consenting adults.
Strange
The only reason he is too young is that he is still figuring out his life.
As long as you don’t try and change him and force him into your idea of life, you are fine.
Go have fun. Just be honest about what you want.
No. When I was 22 i hooked up with a 45 yo woman for fun times.
No.
Yes, as this violates the golden rule of “Half+7”