I’m a virgin and have been fingering for a while now, I’m comfortable doing it and never felt pain, but I’ve NEVER felt pleasure from it, even when I’m aroused af. it’s frustrating. I thought I was doomed to never enjoy sex.
But two days ago, after a lot of arousal, I tried stimulating my clit (even though it usually hurts when touched directly). This time, it felt uncomfortable too, and but after inserting my finger, I ACTUALLY felt pleasure, like, it was amazing, but I didn’t orgasm well, that’s not my problem here.
The problem is that since then, I’ve tried again and again, with the same angle and everything and felt absolutely nothing, even though I was aroused. Why did I feel pleasure that one time but not after? Can anyone explain what’s going on and what I can do?
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It might have been where you were in your cycle.
It could be anything from hormones, a mental block, or not being aroused enough(there are definitely degrees). If you were successful for the first time with enjoyment only 2 days ago, try to be patient with yourself. It’s not uncommon to take weeks to months to discover that stuff, and it still changes over time. If you are still struggling down the road, there are professionals that can help too, regardless of the cause. I promise you’ll find yourself with time.
I think it’s a bit similar to trying to tickle yourself. I can’t much feel pleasure fingering myself but when someone else does it, it feels phenomenal. Not sure if this experience is universal tho!
Make sure you are aroused and wet enough before you touch it. You can watch some r-18 sht or read smut to stimulate your arousal.
Once you are aroused and lubricated enough down there, try rubbing it again, but this time just do it gently without thinking of it too much, just feel the sensation, relax and focus.