Is it wrong to have sexual fantasies about your best friend?

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I, 18M, is constantly having sexual fantasies about my best friend, 19M. For a little bit of background, we have been friends for around 10 years or so now, and so we basically know everything about each other. Here’s the catch though–he’s straight af, and I’m gay. I came out to him during the pandemic, and surprisingly he has been super supportive. Now, when we were around 15 or 16 or so (I was a super horny teen that time), out of horniness, I asked him if I could see his thing. At first, he was surprised and was reluctant, but eventually, he sent me one out of spite. And ever since then, we had this whole horny teenager thing phase, where he constantly sent me pics of his body and sometimes teased me with his d pics (this was during the pandemic). After a few months or so, we eventually stopped that phase, because of course, he was straight and liked girls. From that moment, the sexual thoughts just did not stop at all. I sometimes feel guilty because I think of him that way, but I can’t stop it. I’ve always fantasized how he’s butt naked in front of me, with his schlong out. I won’t get into detail, but you get the point. So, am I awful for having these type of thoughts?

PS: I do not like him romantically, just sexual thoughts.

Comments

  1. SteamySubreddits Avatar

    No harm is ever done with thoughts bro

    It is literally just a thought

  2. BI_UE Avatar

    What kind of straight man sends d pics to other guys? I don’t think he’s as straight as you think he is. Maybe you should ask him out.

  3. ChasingPesmerga Avatar

    Just don’t act on it or do things caused or related to feeling horny about your friend.

    Keep it all in your thoughts. It’s usually just a phase. Post clarity nut can also show you your true feelings.

    You might also meet other guys like him, in physique and/or character. It’s possible that your friend isn’t really exactly your type, but more of his “category”.

  4. Shanga_Ubone Avatar

    Not even a little wrong. Fantasies are just your mind trying on ideas. Just like trying on clothes it can be really fun to try on things you wouldn’t actually buy. Just because you try something on doesn’t mean you really want to buy it.

    Life is short. Try on anything you want, but be a little more careful about what you actually buy.

  5. Vast-Surprise-291 Avatar

    As long as you won’t do weird things (unsolicited touches, etc) to him that’s fine.

  6. Ok_Noise7655 Avatar

    What happens in your head stays there uless you decide otherwise. But personally I would find it hard to talk to people after doing this so I don’t entertain those fantasies about people I talk to.

  7. Ok_Dog_4059 Avatar

    As a straight guy who has had gay friends I personally wouldn’t want to know if any of them had fantasy’s about me. I could worry myself about did they or didn’t they but choose not to think about it therefore bringing it up would make it awkward for me because then it is real and something that will be on my mind any time we hang out.

    Granted this is just one old guys opinion and while a gay guy saying I am attractive feels like a compliment I just don’t need the “is he staring at me and having a fantasy right now?” Intrusive thoughts so blissfully unaware would be my preference.

  8. unknownpoltroon Avatar

    Youre 18. You probably have sexual fantasies about linoleum and lint. Youre straight, hes gay, keep it to yourself otherwise it will fuck up the friendship.