I’ve explained via call and text to my N mum one month ago why I want to see her significantly less and there will be no call or text communication between times. Since then she has sent me various abusive texts and voicemails asking to see me. I have not replied.
She’s now written a letter to my partner saying she has been forced to write to him to get him to contact her so he can discuss with her my decision to see her less. In this letter she describes how DESPERATE she is to see me. She has used the words desperate multiple times and her letter is unhinged. I’ve explained to her my issue is with her and not my dad or sister. Yet in this letter she goes on to say how she wants to spend an hour alone with me without my dad or sister present
My partner is supporting my decision that has now become complete NC with her as it’s been a real eye opener to see things in black and white letter form. We never texted before all communication was phone call or in person.
Is anyone able to share insight on why narcissists are completely obsessed with maintaining contact?
In having a very hard time understanding this need for her to obsessively maintain contact with me especially when as a teen she wanted nothing to do with me and wanted to kick me out. Yet now I’m 30 with my own house and life she’s clinging on for dear life.
Also any advice around how I can use this letter for a restraining order against her in the UK is much appreciated. I fully anticipate things will only escalate from here with her eventually showing up at my house
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