I’m ugly. I’m stupid. I’m going nowhere in life. I have zero confidence. Everyone hates me. I hate myself. I’m a complete failure. What can I do to improve
I’m ugly. I’m stupid. I’m going nowhere in life. I have zero confidence. Everyone hates me. I hate myself. I’m a complete failure. What can I do to improve
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Chin up! It gets better, man.
I’m sorry you feel this way. If it makes you feel any better I think this is a normal feeling that everyone has at some point in their life. I would like to point out that you are not a failure. You had the confidence to post something on here. You subconsciously are reaching out to find help. Help is here.
Let’s start really small. Do you have any hobbies or dreams? If you don’t now, what did you like to do when you were younger
get out of this attitude first, if u think ur failure urself everyone thinks the same too
The two quickest things you can do to feel better about yourself immediately:
Please do not say that… Everyone has a wonderful side in them not discovered yet😢🩵
You need to discover it and people will be jealous of your own wonderful side
Just give up the thought you’re entitled to anything in life and accept all of God’s gifts – the good and the bad. He knows what you need, He put you here for a reason. Accept all he throws at you and you’ll find your way.
First of all improve the perception of yourself about you and that’s it
There’s nothing you can do. You need to free yourself from such a negative perception of yourself. That probably just takes time.
I hate myself too, I feel like I shouldn’t have been born
Hit the gym. Read a book. Or several.
Find out what your passion is (hobby or whatnot) and own the shit out of it. Become a master of your craft.
Identify the root of your thoughts.
“Lightning and thunder require time, the light of the stars requires time, deeds require time even after they are done, before they can be seen and heard.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
Change takes time
Step one: log off reddit
Were all ugly and stupid and going no where in life.
Humans are just gross looking and not smart. And we live on a spinning ball our entire lives.
You’re here to help others 🙂
You should relax, and follow your instinct. Stop overthinking.
Hey… I know it feels like you’re drowning right now, like every thought is a weight pulling you deeper—but please, breathe with me for a second.
You’re not ugly. You’re not stupid. You’re hurt. And when we’re hurt, our mind starts lying to us in the most convincing voices.
You’re here, asking how to improve—that alone means you haven’t given up. That’s not failure. That’s courage.
Start small. Speak kinder to yourself, even if it feels fake at first. Surround yourself with anything that brings you even a little peace—music, nature, someone who listens.
🙌 THE CARNIVORE DIET 🙌
EVERYTHING GETS BETTER
Take action. You won’t progress without action. That’s the reality. Don’t let your feelings eat you, take the action to improve yourself.
Depression is Hell and very paralyzing. The best way out is to do random acts of kindness, especially to strangers. Many secretly face the same situation and need someone to affirm them.
The Devil revels in seeing you beat yourself up. Don’t give him the satisfaction. Show him who is the boss.
Every soul is precious in the sight of God. He gives us weakness so that we may be made strong. He gives us challenges so we may overcome them. His greatest gift is His love for each of us. The entire Holy Bible is God’s love letter to us. Read it, knowing He has you in mind.
As a side note, I want to tell you what happened to me in grade school. I, too, felt everyone in the class hated me. I looked from desk to desk at each of my classmates. One by one I decided, “Well, that person doesn’t hate me. And that person doesn’t hate me. And that person and that person”, and so on. I soon realized there were only maybe two kids who were mean to me. Not everyone hated me, so I felt better about myself.
If there is anyone who hates you, they are not relevant. You are relevant and God and Jesus are relevant. That is all that matters.
You are not upset with yourself. You do not hate yourself. You cannot tag yourself as stupid, as a failure
You are saying such words, what is coming out of you is a result of something else
You need to focus on that topic(s) that are forcing you to utter such words
You are hurting. You are crying. You are missing someone, you are alone You are lonely
You will work at changing that in you see everything around will beautify your life
Hey man. Im not gonna do all that bullshit and say stuff like “oh but ur so beautiful on the inside”. Lemme tell u smth.
So there was this guy in school right, who you could say was objectively ugly. But guess what? Hes popular, has a girlfriend and is happy with life. And what is that about?
Confidence. But obviously confidence doesnt spawn from nowhere. Confidence starts to build when you trust yourself. And to build that self trust, you need to be able to convince yourself that you are worth it. Learn something new, it can be anything practical.
Drawing? Programming? Video editing? Learning a new language? Playing a new sport? Going to the gym? Many possibilities here.
Your genetics isnt in your control and neither is the judgement of others. Look, the reality is that your lifespan is only enough for you. You dont have enough life to use just for other people. Those years are all for yourself, big guy, and you better start using it for that purpose. Life is about your purpose, your personal philosophy and doing whatever the fuck you want.
Your state of mind can only be influenced by yourself and you know that. You know it very well. So this is your mission from now on : dont give a fuck, do whatever the fuck is within your desires, needs and reasons.
Remember, you can sit there all day crying about hiw bad your life is or you can stand the fuck up and work to get what you want. A 1% improvement a day is a 350% improvement a year. We often overestimate what can be done in a day and underestimate what can be done in a year.
Dont burden yourself to change so quickly. Change takes time. Give yourself a few years to iron out the creases. Struggling is a sign of improvement
Just remember my friend, for every Jack, there is a Jill. Or another Jack if you’re that way inclined.
Life is rough but it’s still worth living. Do you have any hobbies? Could you make friends that way perhaps?
Read some books on self love, look in the mirror and tell yourself “I love you”.
What are you measuring your “failure” against? Don’t measure yourself against other people, human beings are designed to be different. There is nothing wrong with being unique.
Sending love.
That internal voice—the one telling you you’re ugly, stupid, hated, a failure—it lies. It’s not the truth. It’s a pattern, and patterns can be changed. I know that might sound distant right now, but please read on just a bit.
So many people (quietly) go through seasons where they feel exactly like you do—like they’re stuck in a loop of self-hate, like there’s no way out. But the very fact that you asked “what can I do to improve?”—that you reached out—means there’s already a spark of hope in you, no matter how small it feels right now.
From a Buddhist lens (if you’re open to it), this “self” that you’re hating isn’t as solid as it feels. Thoughts like “I’m a failure,” or “I’m hated”—they arise, stay for a bit, and then pass. They’re like clouds, not the sky. You’re the sky. Always there, even when it’s stormy.
A book that might resonate with you is *Anitya: No, You Don’t Exist***.** Don’t let the title throw you—it’s not about erasing yourself, it’s about seeing through the false self you’ve been conditioned to believe in. It’s written in a very human, grounded way, and it’s helped a lot of people reconnect with something deeper—something quiet and peaceful that’s always been inside them.
Change your mind set. There’s always someone worse off than you.
Your negative self-talk is fucking with you. Been there done that.
Fortunately, that is far from the truth.
Start your day with some Eckhart Tolle, give it a week
Been there dude. Ended up realising I was the one stopping myself from being the person I wished to be. Open your eyes and be whoever you want
Start by pretending. Play make believe. Start to deny the negative thought patterns that has a narrative about who you are as a person. The truth is – all of that is complete nonsense. You’re not ugly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We all like different things. You exist – so you’re doing a brilliant job already. Start there – with how wonderful it is to exist at all – what a miracle that really is. Everyone doesn’t hate you because you have not met everyone. Some people may dislike you but the truth is your magic isn’t meant for them. The ones that don’t like you are giving you a wonderful message, I am not on your frequency – great, move on and you will find people that are on your level. You’re not a complete failure, every passing moment is a chance to turn it all around. Focusing on being kind to yourself and being grateful for what you have. I promise things will improve. Love yourself and happiness will come back to you.
One last thing – what we have discovered is that all these thoughts in your mind are not true. So why not stop believing what your mind tells you and start believing in a new you, a great you a happy you.
I don’t hate you
Do you actually want to improve? Do you want and see yourself actually putting in the effort? Are you truly ready to let go of your bitter feelings? Are you ready to step outside of your comfort zone? Ask yourself these questions.
Things can and will be better, but you will be the one having to make the effort 100% of the time.
However, therapy would do you good, honestly.
You could go and get some mozzarella sticks. Hard to be sad when you are eating those