It’s the opposite of inconsistency: unpredictable behavior, hot and cold, mood swings, not knowing where you stand, not knowing when they’ll contact you again
I’m going on a second date tomorrow with a guy, and I just 100% know he is really interested in me, which feels so relaxed and safe. Our first date was also just easy and fun and comfortable.
I don’t feel like I need to beg for attention. I don’t spend time wondering whether he likes me or not. I don’t feel like I need to hide the fact that I am interested in him. He is kind and attentive. I have never felt a level of ease like this with anyone before. I don’t think Imthough it was even possible.
This being said, it’s only a second date, so I definitely don’t want to get ahead of myself. But now that I know that it’s possible for things to just flow easily like this, I don’t want it any other way anymore.
from date 2 onwards we decided at the end of the date when we would see each other next. I was still a mess in my head with butterflies every time I got a text 😅 but that was a godsend
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Communication.
It’s 2025. You don’t need to go hours without picking up your phone.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Stop making big gestures.
Showing the same level of interest. No hot/cold nonsense.
Do what you say you’ll do when you say you’ll do it.
Keep a steady pace with meeting for dates, texting.
Plan things a reasonable amount of time in advance. Plan things with an adequate level of detail.
It’s the opposite of inconsistency: unpredictable behavior, hot and cold, mood swings, not knowing where you stand, not knowing when they’ll contact you again
Actions match words and level of interest is predictable.
COMMUNICATION. Absolutely no mind games. If they’re hot/cold, run. If they like you, they’ll make time for you.
He texts once in a while, he plans dates once in a while. I text once in a while, I plan dates once in a while.
I am very clear on where they’re at- zero confusion. I continue to feel at ease with their communication.
I guess that’s a green flag scenario. Some people are consistently unreliable,
I’m going on a second date tomorrow with a guy, and I just 100% know he is really interested in me, which feels so relaxed and safe. Our first date was also just easy and fun and comfortable.
I don’t feel like I need to beg for attention. I don’t spend time wondering whether he likes me or not. I don’t feel like I need to hide the fact that I am interested in him. He is kind and attentive. I have never felt a level of ease like this with anyone before. I don’t think Imthough it was even possible.
This being said, it’s only a second date, so I definitely don’t want to get ahead of myself. But now that I know that it’s possible for things to just flow easily like this, I don’t want it any other way anymore.
from date 2 onwards we decided at the end of the date when we would see each other next. I was still a mess in my head with butterflies every time I got a text 😅 but that was a godsend
He says what he will do, and does what he says he will.
He doesn’t leave it up to me to always be texting, making plans, etc. It’s a mostly equal back and forth.
He is enthusiastic about big plans and little plans.
same level of interest
communicates
considerate and remembers details from the start
your word is your bond bro, no empty promises
curiousity reciprocated