Women who have been through it, what do you do when you feel like you’re completely lost and directionless in life?
In my mid 30s, hopelessly single with no children. I want to meet a life partner, but the dating pool in my area is very small and I have to be realistic. I don’t fit in or have a strong sense of community where I live, but moving feels impossible in this economy, especially since I own my house. Not passionate about my job.
I just canceled a solo trip I had planned because I found myself dreading the idea of being alone while in this headspace more than I was looking forward to it. I have my dog to look after but that’s just about it. I just don’t know what I’m working toward or living for other than to just keep existing. Has anyone managed to jump start themselves?
(Please, respectfully, I am not interested in volunteer work at this time.)
ETA: To be clear, the trip is already fully canceled, flights and hotels and all.
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I would say go on that solo trip! I am in the same situation and solo travelling has helped a lot
I solo travel. I’ve been travelling since September and I’m finally heading home with some sense of passion about a whimsical future I’ve dreamed up while travelling. I have deleted a lot of “should”ing from my brain while travel and restructured myself internally. I’m a completely different person now.
I’m feeling lost too lately : (
I think you should still take that solo trip. I had one when I was at my lowest, I literally wouldn’t want to pack my bag hours before the flight. But my friend pushed me to go thru with it, and it really helped. I strongly suggest seeing nature, maybe something different from where you are like mountains if you’re in a coastal area.
I also suggest that maybe create that community that you’d like to be part of. It doesn’t necessarily mean being a volunteer, but show up to a community. Go to yoga classes, be part of online groups that interest you, show up in places regularly.
This is specific to me because I recognize that I have self-worth and confidence issues at times but the times I’ve felt lost and incredibly low in my life, I found that putting myself in new, unfamiliar experiences is what helped to shift my perspective and mood the most. I’ve jumped into tennis lessons, did some background acting work, and next week I will be starting a watercolour painting course. I find putting myself through experiences where im expected to be a novice is what helps to remind me to not take life too seriously. Like, at the end of the day being bad at tennis doesn’t affect anything in my life and knowing that I can be absolutely horrible at it is freeing to me. As a result it makes me open to more things in my life and as a bonus I learn more about myself which lifts my mood. Best of luck on your journey and I hope you find peace