We hear many stories about parents who hit their children, then get mad when said children hit them back?
Like what were they thinking when they hit their children, they’re literally teaching them that violence is the answer
They can’t be this thick surely?
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Yeah, fr its wild. It’s pure hypocrisy, and lowkey just about control, not “teaching a lesson.”
They believe in the hierarchical power dynamic, where children are subordinate to the authority of the parents, and are supposed to obey commands.
I think maybe it’s that deep down they know that their violence isn’t an answer at all, they just want to dominate and hurt the kid to feel powerful.
My mother was abusive. One day she started pushing me around again and I finally pushed her back and had become big enough that I was actually comparatively strong to her and she actually had to take a step back. I’ll never forget the look on her face. After that, she really stepped up the psychological and emotional abuse to where it was way worse than the physical abuse.
I would get in trouble for trying to “block” the hit
Because there is this weird toxic culture around “respect your elders” no matter how they behave and whether or not they were successful in life. It used to actually be an achievement to get to old age but that’s no longer is the case with the marvel of modern medicine. I was hit during my childhood and I never hit back but had violent thoughts towards my parents and no longer speak to the one that’s still alive. My husband’s mom constantly smacked him in the face for “talking back” we lived with her for a little while and she wouldn’t stop abusing me back to back to back (spitting on me calling me names, and berating me for supposedly manipulating ALL THREE of her children) she was so upset he wasn’t taking her side that she tried to let our dog out into the street and when she tried to block him from catching her he smacked her in the same way. She pretended to call the police for the very same thing she has done to him REPEATEDLY!! Nothing but hypocrisy and narcissism!! It never mattered how she treated people only how she was treated.
They don’t think logically about it. That’s the best answer I can give from experience.
They are this thick. In their mind it’s justifiable punishment. My father describes himself as a pacifist but that didn’t keep him from hitting me (he did eventually apologize for that so people can grow).
My mother only slapped me once, when I was about 13. I don’t remember what I said, but I’m sure it was something horrific to push her over the edge like that (not defending, just saying it was very out of character.) I was so shocked that I slapped her back. Then we both sat there and cried, hugged, she apologized and neither of us did that again.
Obviously, you shouldn’t slap your kid. But if you do and they hit you back, be like my mom.
You’re not supposed to hit back. You do, and you’ll be sent to reform school.
People who hit children aren’t exactly rational
I used to just take it, not make a sound, and then ask if they felt better afterwards, sometimes it would get worse, but that look was so satisfying.
It’s never about the child.
I usually laughed, which made it worse. One day I hit back, he didn’t hit after that.
Do abusive parents not worry what will happen, when their children grow up bigger and stronger than them?
i dont know if i actually did, or if this even counts because i was spanked as a kid, but i remember kicking my mom once and for like a week she had a wrist guard on. i cant remember if she was faking it or not. eitherway spankin turns me on now so in the end i won
It’s about power dynamics and frustration. In those situations there is little to no emotional regulation so they hit the child as a form of control, not expecting reciprocity. It’s “I am stronger/older and you are supposed to obey” mentality so when met with the same reply their authority is challenged. I fought back in my teen years or laugh in her face, and sometimes it would just make things worse, so I just let my mom do her thing. I’m wasn’t gonna brawl with an old lady.
I’d imagine that in their fucked up abuser hellscape brain they’ve convinced themselves that this is justifiable and deserved punishment, so when the kid hits back that kid is questioning the parents so-called rightful authority.
They absolutely can be that stupid – their approach to parenting is beating their kids. Expecting anything from them is too much.
Think about Goten and Gohan, they could have accidentally dusted Chi Chi by hitting back. Assume you are a Saiyan and pay them back by blowing up the planet when you grew up