My friend told me something after a few drinks and I can’t forget it

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A few months ago, one of my closest friends opened up to me about something from their childhood, and ever since then, I’ve been carrying it around like a weight.

We were having drinks, just the two of us, and they started talking about how they haven’t slept properly in years. I knew they had trouble sleeping — they’ve asked me about sleeping pills before — but this time felt different. They got quiet and said there’s something that’s haunted them since they were a kid.

They told me about a time in primary school when there was a kid who bullied them constantly. One day, the bully followed them home and just wouldn’t stop. Something in them snapped, and they pushed the kid. The kid fell, hit the ground, and didn’t get up right away. My friend got scared and ran home.

Later that day, the kid was found dead. Everyone thought it was an accident. My friend never told anyone what happened. Until that night with me.

They cried while telling me and said they’ve never felt free from it. I haven’t brought it up since, and they act like it never happened. I’ve tried searching online to see if anything about it was ever reported, but I can’t find a single thing. They didn’t mention names or exactly where it happened, just that it was in a small village.

I don’t know what to do. Part of me thinks it was a tragic accident. Part of me is wondering what else I don’t know. Mostly I’m just stuck with it now. I care about them, but it’s hard carrying this secret.

Has anyone ever had a friend drop something that heavy on them? How did you handle it?

Comments

  1. Loawluh Avatar

    confessing your friend is a murderer is crazy

  2. Sorry-Assistance8347 Avatar

    wow, i cant imagine how you must have felt hearing that.. probably even worse for your friend. Thats a huge guilt to carry, i think maybe you should try talking to him and console him into maybe seeking help, or someone to talk too.

  3. avid-learner-bot Avatar

    Oh my gosh, this is intense! Well, it sounds like your friend is carrying a truly heavy secret… like, a really heavy one. It’s understandable that you feel stuck, sweetie, it’s such a lot to process. I mean, imagine knowing something so big and keeping it bottled up… phew! It’s also probably why your friend hasn’t been sleeping properly, because guilt and trauma do that to you. So, yeah, I agree, they definitely need to talk to someone professional. Like, a therapist or something. It’s not your job to fix them, you’re just there to support them and be a good friend. It’s kinda sad, though, poor thing! I bet they’re like, a wreck inside… maybe we should send them some cookies or something? Hehe! It’s really quite shocking, isn’t it

  4. HarryPoopr Avatar

    Who are “they” multiple friends?

  5. jazzbot247 Avatar

    I hope this is fake