Throwaway because I don’t want this on my main. Basically there’s this girl I like. And we’ve been pretty close for a while now. I want to ask her out.
So I was with her on campus in a vending machine room that nobody uses. We hang out there sometimes. And I got her a candy. I was about to tell her my feelings. I was just thinking about how to do it.
And she interrupted me and basically was like “y’know why I like you? Because you’re weak and harmless. You wouldn’t make things weird like other guys.”
I had no idea how to respond to that so I just laughed and said yeah. I decided not to ask her out. Now I can’t stop thinking, did she know what I was about to say and stopped me? Or maybe she really does not know and just happened to say something that stopped me. And thirdly idk if I should be offended by that.
Now I’m super confused what to do next. By “harmless” does she mean that I wouldn’t try to ask her out and ruin our friendship? Or maybe she was just saying that she’s afraid of other men? Maybe she was trying to tell me something about herself? Idk
Comments
You shouldn’t necessarily be offended but she has no romantic interest in you
I’m going to say she probably felt it and said that to throw you off, I would agree she’s not interested in a romantic relationship and probably just enjoys the attention or company. But maybe not, you could just ask her.
“Well, maybe I just don’t find you attractive. Either way have a nice life.”
If you don’t just wanna be her friend I’d probably say something, or having her seek you out isn’t the worst idea, you just have to be ok if she doesn’t come looking. You know? You’ll be ok thought, you’re young. Chin up bud
She didn’t have to say “weak.” I’d start the distancing process. It’s only going to go downhill from what you had originally hoped. She kinda seems like a jerk, or at least socially oblivious.
She felt your near confession and pushed you back to the friendzone 🤷🏼♂️
that’s an insulting this to say to someone, and she likely knew that
She for the streets
That’s a pretty mean thing to say. I would reconsider even being friends with her if I were you. Maybe you could ask her what she meant by it? She definitely doesn’t like you romantically if she would say that.
This is the wrong sub reddit to suggest giving her an uppercut to prove your abilities of self defense