I see a lot of mixed opinions about this. If you need clarification, I mean dad’s coming into the girls restroom and like, standing outside their daughter’s stall while they wait.
Women, how do you feel about men bringing their daughters into woman’s restrooms?
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Adults should go in their gender-consistent restroom to accompany thier kids. Dads = mens room. Mom = wonens room. Or use the family restroom.
It’s a bathroom. If Dad feels more comfortable taking her into the women’s room, go for it. It doesn’t bother me one bit. My brother did it when his child was in diapers bc the men’s stalls didn’t have a changing table. Wait outside if it bothers you. When you gotta go, you gotta go
I mean :/ I’d be a bit startled but if he had his daughter with him how bad could it really be. Plus I’d MUCH rather he bring his daughter to our bathroom than to the men’s!
Well, the alternative is a little girl in the men’s room…
I don’t care what bathrooms people use.
I do not want a man in the women’s restroom.
I too have a daughter and her Dad at different points took each of his daughters into the men’s and into a stall.
If he was the one needing to use the bathroom he just held the tot in one arm at the urinal.
I assure both of those girls have zero recollection of these events and we’re harmed in no way.
Whatever works best for them
Men’s rooms often have urinals and little girls are much more likely to see something inappropriate in that case, so I get it. Tbh I think that any place big enough to have multiple stalls in a bathroom should have a family bathroom as a standard, but when they don’t… it’s a little surprising but as long as he says something like ‘I’m taking my daughter’ it’s fine.
Also, depending on how young, the women’s room might be the only bathroom with a changing table.
I’ve never had an issue with it, and don’t even think twice when I see it happen. It’s pretty normal where I am afaik (Canada) and I can’t name anyone I know irl that would find it strange either.
Fine obviously. Kid needs to pee, parent needs to help. Cubicles have doors. Not a drama
It’s dads doing their job. That’s all. Me as a girl i would not have liked to go to the men’s room with my dad.
I don’t see anything wrong with it. A dad in the women’s restroom is in my eyes preferabel to a little girl in the men’s restroom.
If we ban the male relatives of little girls (or women of any age who need help in the restroom) from women’s restrooms, that part of childcare automatically turns into a women only task instead of a parent’s task. If we continue this line of thinking, we end up in a society, where fathers can’t go anywhere with their daughters, until the girls are old enough to use the restroom on their own.
Hard to say. I think it depends on the age of the daughter or where you are, but I feel like whenever I’ve seen this I’ve been like “okay yeah he’s there so they don’t get separated somehow or in case she needs help”, because I think it’s only ever been at the airport or a big mall or amusement park or something. But I think usually standing just outside the restroom door makes more sense. However, sometimes little girls get nervous going anywhere alone, including the bathroom. I feel like it’s easy to tell when a man is doing it to be a creep vs trying to help his daughter be more comfortable.
He’s a dad protecting his daughter. Id be more concerned with a little girl by herself in the bathroom then a man with his daughter in the bathroom. The alternative is bringing her into the men’s room…. Where there’s urinals, and men using said urinals.
Men’s have urinals out in the open, so women’s is best option
I never seen that happen, I would think it must be very awkward for the parent but I seen moms taking sons in women restrooms or dads taking daughters to mens restroom even in change rooms which Im okay with. Its better then leaving them alone if there very young. Its also common here to have separate children bathrooms which are usually mix gendered but parents also go there.
My dad used to wait outside the women’s bathroom until he saw a kind lady and would ask if she would take me in. They always did and it wasn’t a problem but this was the 80’s.
I am from the Netherlands, where this is super normal. Often parents take the kids with them or the kid wants to go to ‘their’ bathroom and so, parent followes. Heck, even at busy concerts its ‘unisex’ even if a bathroom is gendered, because people just need to go.
In the end, its a bathroom, we all go there to use a toilet, and if dad walks in with his daughter, than thats all fine
I’ve never seen this happen, but would be fine with it. He’s not coming in the stall with me.
My dad used to take me into the men’s room when I was little, he just told me to look at the ground and he walked me to the stall, and I used it. It wasn’t a big deal.
No concern of mine, it doesn’t bother me what bathroom someone uses. A bathroom is a bathroom.
I don’t care
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It’s a bathroom. I don’t care who uses which bathroom as long as I can go when I need to. I used the men’s room at Meijer the other day because the women’s was being cleaned and I really had to pee. There weren’t any dudes in there but like, why does it matter? I’m not here to look at your bits, I’m here because I have normal bodily functions and the bathroom is where you go for that.
No little girl with him? Creep
Little girl with him? A decent dad who wants his little girl to be safe from dangerous men who may be lurking in the men’s toilets. I’d much, much rather her feel safe and comfortable in a room full of likeness.
I think that a dad brings whatever child into the men’s restroom and mom brings whatever child into the women’s restroom. Due to the fact that men’s restroom rarely have changing tables or maybe not even proper toilets he should first off bring them to a unisex bathroom that is designated for wheelchair users and parents. Last option bring his daughter to the women’s restroom.
Dads can definitely come in. In my country bathroom stalls door dont have gaps and are tall enough, so he wont be able to see anyone in their underwear.
I wouldn’t want any kid seeing any type of genitalia, men’s urinals too in the open. Fortunately, I see family rest rooms becoming more and more available.
I would prefer it over a little girl going into a yucky men’s room
I would be taken aback at first glance but fine once I see the kid. My sister was a little girl who had to be taken into the men’s room when she was a kid and she saw adult man dick and men pissing in urinals and the nasty smell since if my dad took her and my brother their wasn’t a woman around to take her to the girls room.
I don’t care. I’m glad when I see parents being parents. People need to get a life and mind their business.
No problem at all. I would rather that than him taking her into a male bathroom where men are exposed at urinals
I wouldn’t care tbh I’d probably feel sorry for him, cause the poor guy must feel awkward and on edge about someone yelling at him
Why wouldn’t you take her into a mens bathroom?
It wouldn’t bother me. Urinals don’t have any privacy so that can be uncomfortable, especially as the daughter gets older. Many men’s bathrooms don’t even have changing tables.
Idc if it’s little girls, the mom might not be there at the moment. Women bathrooms aren’t like men bathrooms where there’s Urinals and penises might be out.
The only issue I can see is a woman trying to fix her bra at that moment and the man pops in. Personally idc, but ik that would be an issue.
Completely fine. I am a grown woman and can handle the sight of a clothed man. She is a little girl who doesn’t need the sight of a dick.
I wouldn’t care at all.
I say that as a grandmother who took her 4 year old grandson into the men’s room because he outright refused to use the “girls bathroom”. (I knocked before opening the door, then slightly cracked it and announced our presence before going in.)
My first reaction would be startled because man. But when I would see the little girl I would be understanding.
Don’t care. I would never look at a father sideways for bringing his daughter in there to go. My father did the same thing with me and my older sisters growing up, and my husband does the same with our daughter. I don’t know any woman that would oppose a father taking his daughter to go.
Growing up being raised by my dad, from when I was about 4 years old or so, I always just went into the woman’s bathroom alone and he waited for me outside.
I’d prefer a dad bringing his baby in the women’s room over him taking her to the men’s room.
All a man needs to do is just say he’s bringing his kid in and we’re ok.
Id also like to add that I’d also prefer it if a dad escorted and checked the stalls before leaving his child alone in the restroom too, if there are no available family bathrooms. Men like to sneak in and “use” the women’s rooms 😒
I don’t care at all.
I’d only be uncomfortable if he was standing RIGHT outside the stall and weirdly standing a foot away from the door in eyesight to the stall I’m in through the cracks because the stalls tend to have giant gaps in the doors. But I’d be equally uncomfortable if it was a mom standing right there as well lol.
I truly couldn’t care less which restroom someone chooses to relieve themselves, as long as they don’t have nefarious intentions.
We need to mainstream family restrooms
I remember going out with my dad and using the men’s room with him, also times he would come into the women’s with me. Then the day came where he said he couldn’t keep going in there with me. It was then I knew I was finally big girl haha but no it doesn’t bother me. It does take me back though.
I 100% support it. Y’all better expect me in the boys room though I got three sons😂. Jk but for real this makes sense because the boys room has open stalls!
I don’t care at all
I literally don’t care who uses what bathroom.
I don’t care one bit who uses what bathroom. All I care about is whether or not the toilet is flushing and if there’s toilet paper. And soap.
I appreciate a knock and announcement first “Hi, I’m bringing my daughter in so she can use the restroom” But otherwise I’m totally fine with it. Mens rooms are sometimes really messy and dirty as well as with urinals there’s no wondering what the little girl might see. So yeah for me Dads with their daughters are more than welcome in the women’s room.
I dont mind at all. I’d rather them go there anyway
I genuinely don’t give a fuck with bathrooms people use. I can count on maybe 1 hand the amount of times I’ve seen a man with a young daughter in a women’s restroom. Most women don’t care because…..we’re literally just going pee and trying to go about our day.
I am a child (F, 50+) of a single dad. I feel like a dad has got to do, what a dad has to do. I think it’s better than the men’s RR.
I kinda remember my dad taking me to the men’s RR and standing outside the stall. I was very young.
At some point he took me to the women’s RR but would stand just outside with the main entrance door open.
Around 7 or so, I went into the women’s RR by myself – he would wait outside like normal.
Just put out a “girl dad” announcement when walking in so I’m not startled and idc
I would guess he doesn’t want to be there any more than the women in there want him there. I’m confident he just wants to help his child and GTFO of there.
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That’s just a dad taking care of his kid. I don’t care. I don’t really care what bathroom anyone goes in
Baby needs to pee, what’s dad going to do. No problem
Totally fine. The options are that or bringing a little girl into the men’s bathroom, which is also fine imo for what it’s worth – or alternately, fathers absolving themselves of taking care of their daughters rather than risk an embarrassing moment, which is not fine.
I have very low concern that a man is out to perve on me or rape me while he’s toileting his child.
Better than bringing them into men’s bathrooms.
That’s the right thing to do in my opinion, taking your child to the bathroom of their gender, after all, you’re there for the child.
I think taking the little girl into the mens bathroom, just because the parents is male is weird and unnecessary. I don’t think anyone would ever make a fuss about a dad and his daughter coming into the womens bathroom.
It doesn’t bother me
I actually prefer this! I don’t like the idea of little girls being in the men’s restroom whereas if a man comes in with a little girl I know he’s not being a pervert and just trying to protect his little girl. I already told my husband that I want him to look inside the girls bathroom to make sure it’s safe before our girls go in because there are so many creeps that hide in women’s park bathrooms
I see a lot of people saying dads shouldn’t bring their kids into men’s rooms.
Can I ask someone to clarify why this is the case? I don’t think I understand.
My Mom took me into the women’s restroom all the time, but it sounds like reversing that is different for little girls.
Considering the man in that situation is not interested in anything other than the needs of his daughter, I couldn’t care less. It’s probably more comfortable for the little girl than having to go in the men’s room with her father and do her business amongst men.
I think it’s fine, I think it can be helpful for them to announce themselves and why they are entering first just incase anyone would be shocked or panicked, but I think a father taking his daughter in the ladies room is safer than trust her to a strangers care (I have seen dads ask women to take their daughter in) and more convenient than taking their daughter into the men’s where there are less stalls.
It’s fine.
Id bring her with me into the men’s room with me.
I think that’s fine. Sometimes the men’s room doesn’t have changing tables either so men have to use them for that. Or it’s a new place and their daughter isn’t comfortable and wants dad.
Honestly I’m pro-involved father.
I don’t really care. As long as no one is being inappropriate, I don’t care which bathroom they’re using, regardless of gender. I’ve used men’s bathrooms when there was a long line for the women’s or if it was out of order.
I don’t have any problem with this. But it is another reason why there should be more ‘women’s’ toilets than men’s for equality of access. I say ‘women’s’ in quotes, because they aren’t just for women, they are also for children of either gender etc. Which is why, along with urinals not being an options,
there are often long queues for the women’s toilets and men can just walk in without queuing at all (unless it is an event with many more men than women).
100% ok with it, im pro making all toilets unisex, its an enclosed stall, whats the big deal?
It’s perfectly fine. They all have doors. If he feels safer that way, I’m chill. Rather that than her in the men’s.
No issue with it. In fact I’d encourage it so she doesn’t have to go into the men’s
Couldn’t care less. Do what you gotta do dad.