Hello, although any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and I would love to hear the opinions and thoughts of anyone kind enough to read and share. I will admit this post is primarily a question to men with autism (although I imagine for women with autism this might apply just as much).
I am in my late thirties now and have still never been in a relationship before, not even a super short one. Not overly surprising for an autistic guy. But a tad bit frustrating, nevertheless. I have always had a hard time fitting in and connecting with people. It basically just does not happen to me.
Which is ok. I do pretty good on my own. But I would like a relationship. And I worry my inability to click with someone is forever going to keep me single. It just seems no matter who I am talking to we never really ‘click’ or make a connection.
What is hard for me to understand is I like and click with women all the time. It is not hard for me to click with someone I like. I even fall in love wonderfully easily. So, it is hard for me to understand what another person is looking for. I seem to find what I am looking for in another so easily and yet no one ever seems to find in me what they are looking for.
I guess this question is mostly for men with autism who after a long time finally got into a relationship. What finally made you click with someone? What did they see in you that they liked?
Like I said it is tough for me because I find so many women I like. Yet they never seem to like me in return. What does it feel like for someone to like you or click with you.
Or am I way off base here. I obviously have zero clue what women are looking for.
Thank you so very much 🙂
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Usually hobbies. My wife and I love old marathi musicals. We bonded over that first and then we just clicked. Try to find women who share your hobbies or interests.
I hate to say it like this since it’s not accomplishable by everyone, but being funny goes a long way.
Shared interests helps too, I’ve met all my exes through hobbies.
What do you actually like about these girls you’ve fallen for before, though? Are they attractive + nice to you, OR did you genuinely like what made her, her? You don’t have to answer this question, but just think about it and be honest with yourself. If I had to guess, I would assume you only like these women at a very surface level, not because of who they truly are outside of how they make you feel.
If you wanna attract a match, they literally need to energetically align with you. Figure out what your standards + needs are first, and that way you won’t be throwing your feelings out to just anyone. If you don’t know what you’re looking for, how are you supposed to suddenly understand what women are looking for?
You will attract the right person by knowing what it is you want in the first place— otherwise, you’re just gonna be rejected over and over again if you’re not focusing on trying to date the right people.
You are someone’s dream partner, I promise. But if you wanna find yours, you’ve gotta have an idea what you’re looking for.
click. It’s time to stop waiting for someone who doesn’t exist and start creating your own love story. Focus on being the best version of yourself, and that energy will attract like-minded people
You want a partner who can appreciate you for who you are? Be that person first! When you exude confidence, kindness, and passion, others will be drawn to it. So put yourself out there, take risks, and embrace the journey. The right person will be worth the wait
And hey, don’t sell yourself short, you’re probably way more attractive than you think. Maybe it’s time to upgrade your dating app profile pics
I am too. You can cultivate your hobbies or interests. Not only to click with someone but also to be interesting. Interesting people are interested.