I have a family dilemma, for the longest I have been on life 360 with my family so they can keep up with my location. Well when I turned 23 I moved out of state but still stayed on life 360. One night I was out on a date passed midnight and my mom just starts blowing up my phone, calling and texting multiple times. Saying she knows I’m not home and asking where am I. I felt so embarrassed and angry at her that the next day I removed myself from life 360 and stopped sharing my location on find my iPhone. Now everyone is upset with me saying she was just worried about me and I shouldn’t have reacted so harshly. She crossed a boundary and it wasn’t the first time, I don’t trust her to have my location and I value my privacy. AITA?
Edit: I was on life 360 with my mom, sister and grandmother. Right now only my sister and cousin have my location on find my iPhone and I planned on sharing it with a few friends. Thank you everyone for your input, I feel better about my decision. Also I’m a girl not a guy lol
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Your mom must think you’re living in a real-life version of ‘Where’s Waldo?’ Newsflash: sometimes Waldo just wants to enjoy a date without being tracked like a lost dog!
NTA. You’re 23, not 13 sneaking out past curfew. Your mom treating Life360 like a personal surveillance system instead of a safety tool is exactly why you dipped. If she can’t respect basic boundaries, she doesn’t need real-time updates on your every move. Let her experience the thrill of mystery for once.
At this point, your mom deserves an honorary detective badge! But hey, a little privacy never hurt anyone… unless you’re hiding from the pizza delivery guy!
You’re 23 and have moved out of the house. NTA. You choose who you share your location with, if anybody.
I’d consider maintaining your location accesible to someone you trust and who won’t abuse it though. It’s thanks to Life 360 how I learned that my wife was in a serious car crash and I was able to locate her.
NTA and she needs to get a reality check.
I’m 25 and still have Life360 on my phone for my parents to always know where I am. Simultaneously my parents haven’t demanded to know where I was since I turned 18.
I keep mine on out of respect for my parents knowing it gives them peace of mind, my parents respect me enough to not blow my phone up, I’ll get a text to make sure I’m okay or a call if they can’t reach me at most.
One is caring, one is controlling. Respect goes both ways.
You are an adult. Mommy doesn’t need to know where you are all the time. Good for you for getting rid of Life360. Don’t reistall no matter how much she pleads since she has no respect of boundaries.
I feel like immediately jumping to deleting the app might have been a bit hasty, if this is recurring issue however I can see why this would be the appropriate response.
Was a conversation able to be had about boundaries, about the fact that you’re a full grown adult and in charge of your own life?
With that said, being a parent and the prospect of your child being out in the world late at night is absolutely terrifying to me, I’m not at all defending your mothers actions, she’s solely in the wrong here I would urge you to consider talking this through with your mum to see if a compromise could be made.
I hope that it all works out for the best and that you get a re run on your date ♥️
Tell your mom you will turn it back on only if she promises not to ever blow up your phone , and to treat you like an adult. But in today’s world its good for family to know where you are with all the nuts in the world.
Your mother is nosy and needs to be told to fuck off with that shit. She could see where you’re at on that app and then google the location and see you were out. None of her business. Wait til you get married and she’s in the bedroom on your wedding night telling your new wife how she’s doing it wrong. That’s what’s coming if you don’t nip it in the bud.
You don’t have to have life 360, but when you are going out with someone new let a friend or someone know, just to be safe.
Keep any old phone plugged in at home so it looks like you literally never leave your house.
You were right to take away her access. She abused the privilege. Hold the line.
Stand your ground. This is crazy
Bro, you’re a grown adult. If they want to know where you are, they can text like normal people. Life360 at 23 is crazy.
Your 23. She has to suck it up and stop treating you like a child. Yes you’re her child but you are also an adult. It will suck for her. But it seems like she stalks your life.
nta. mom is. you’re 23, not a kid. i know she just worries because she loves you and wants to make sure you are always safe. good for you for deleting 360 and your location sharing.
NTA, you’ve gotta stand up to your mom on this one. 23 is way past curfew age and Life360’s only purpose is to invade your privacy anyway. Your mom should’ve respected that by now, but if she won’t, it’s time to take control back… literally
I think a conversation should be had before deleting the app.
In one way, those apps give your parents a piece of mind that you are indeed safe. It is also give you a safety barrier, as someone else will know about your location in case you are kidnapped or be in an accident. On the other way, you would know about your parents location as well – give you a peace of mind and give them a safety assurance as well that someone knows their location.
Boundaries can be set and negotiated. Have a talk about this first before doing something drastic.
NTA.
Well done on growing up and becoming an adult.
NTA
NTA, and I’d severely limit contact with your mother. Perhaps sever it completely.
My high school aged kids have like 360. I do check it, of course, but literally zero time in order to police anything. And they live at home and are on my payroll!!
There are very few excuses for what she did. You may consider that she learned her lesson if she profusely apologizes and give her another chance. It is scary to have kids out there in the world, and to her you are still a kid. However, if you do give her that chance, and she does it again, that’s a strict no more location sharing. So NTA, but maybe do give her a chance, assuming this is somewhat out of character for her
If used responsibly and respectfully, I’d encourage kept it, but in the case you are describing, you are not the A.
Absolutely not ok. I am a mother of 9. All adults except for 1. I have 3 children that live out of state and I would NEVER do this to any of them. I have asked their permission to track them when they are on a road trip, so I can make sure they are safe, but I would never just invade their privacy in this manner. As a mother I am so sorry that you experienced this. It’s right for you to set boundaries, and those boundaries need to be respected by all of your family members.
You put your sausage wherever you like, your fam does not need that extension
NTA. Life 360 is overkill now you’re an adult. Not her business what you are doing. It has its uses but if you decide you don’t want it that is 100% valid and your family shouldn’t be criticising this choice. Surveillance isn’t reasonable use.
Stay on it for the cousin
NTA. It is astonishing to think that a family would want to control a grown man like this. You totally made the right decision.
Have I read this before? Seems familiar.
Your mom is actually crossing your boundary
NTA. Your mom fucked up and this is the consequence.
Huge violation of privacy and complete lack of respect for the fact that you’re an independent adult. She loses tracking privileges, permanently, no exceptions and no apologies.
Stand your ground. You are not overreacting.
Maybe it’s a generational thing but I don’t share my location with anybody. Text me if you need to find me. I’ll get back to you.
this is the second post I’ve seen of a grown ass adult asking if they’re the AH for leaving life 360…
you. are. an. adult.
you. can. make. your. own. decisions.
NTA. You’re an adult who no longer lives with your mom, so she has no reason except paranoia to be monitoring you so closely. Besides, even if something awful happened, what would,she do about it? You live in a different state.
NTA. We have Life360 and our adult daughter is on it. When our son moved out of state, he turned his off, which we were fine with. I rarely ever look at it and have only checked on our daughter when she was on a long distance road trip with a friend. It can be a great safety tool, but should not be used how your mom was using it. I’d take myself off as well if someone did that to me.