In movies, teenage girls usually discourage each other from losing their virginity instead of being happy for their friend who’s about to get laid. Is this common in real life?
In movies, teenage girls usually discourage each other from losing their virginity instead of being happy for their friend who’s about to get laid. Is this common in real life?
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It’s the total opposite from my experience. We were all supportive of each other when one got to the point they were ready to have sex to first time. Just
Made sure it was done in a safe way.
I went to a catholic school and generally was discouraged to have sex. I remember in 8th grade hearing about girls having sex and even older into 10th grade and being disgusted/perturbed/looking down on girls who had sex. I lost my virginity as a junior and lied about it to everyone around me and it wasn’t until college that I started embracing my sexuality and understanding people’s sexuality around me. Maybe it was the Catholics raising me that made me think that way, but looking back I don’t think any of those girls were gross for losing their virginity young.
I definitely still view sex as something that should not be taken lightly and wouldn’t be thrilled about my 8th grader losing their virginity, but women are generally looked down on for being sexual while men are praised for it. It’s a fucked up binary in my opinion and think that 1) sex should be talked about to teens more often, especially sexual safety (consent, protection, etc.) 2) but I also don’t think it’s something that should be taken lightly especially by teenage girls.
Anyways, I could say a lot more but I’ll get off my soapbox
It’s only common in conservative / religious communities.
When I was a teenager I didn’t care about virginity or any sexual purity type stuff and neither did my friends. I’m in my mid 40s now and I never — I mean literally never ever — had a single friend who gave a shit, or who was “saving herself for marriage” or anything like that. And yeah we all talked about sex very openly.