it’s so annoying.
I’m too white to fit into the Korean crowd and I’m too Korean to fit into the white crowd.
I grew up in a predominantly white community so I’ve only ever had crushes on Latino and white men. I never really thought about it because they were, quite literally, all I knew – but now I’m just an Oxford study girl apparently.
It’s insulting because I wish I knew more Korean people growing up. I’m not opposed to dating Korean men, I just feel as though I don’t fit into the culture. I’ve never really felt welcomed to it, but no one wants to have these nuanced discussions.
It’s also frustrating because people only see my Asian features. I have to tell people I’m half white, but that doesn’t mean they see me as white – they still see me as just Asian. I don’t get white privilege. People still ask me if I eat dog and assume I watch anime. I feel like I’m a walking fetish sometimes too.
But god forbid I try talking or venting about this. People will tell me I’m not Asian enough to talk about Asian topics and say I’m muddling the waters.
Yeah, there’s worse problems out there but god, I just wish I was either 100% white or 100% Korean
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I’m going to take a wild guess here and say that you’re American?
A strong racial identity is something I’ve never really seen.
These attributes don’t really describe the person you are. If you don’t learn to accept yourself, you’re asking too much for others to do that for you.
Come on man… whasians are awesome! I’ve dated several. You guys are the best of both worlds! I’m sorry for your bad experiences…. Sometimes people suck. Just remember…. You’re awesome!
Im Windian and I used to think this way too, my advice would be to stop caring so much about what others think you are and start focusing on what you feel you are. Your identity is your own and no one can take that away from you unless you let them. I see myself as both white and Indian in equal measure. If others don’t feel I’m enough of either? Fuck em. The concept of race is a social construct anyways, don’t worry too much about it!
Welcome to the biracial struggle