I have been talking to a guy for a while now, we were flirting, and he said I was getting him excited, note, I was saying let’s try something new together, as in activities for dates when we meetup. When I stupidly told him I would like to see him excited (again, mostly thinking meeting up and trying escape room or something), then I went to sleep, silencing my phone. I woke up to his d-pic. Nothing else, just full frontal of his junk, fully erect, in what appears to be a bathroom stall, likely at his work, but could be train station bathroom for all I know.
It shocked all the attraction I had for him out of my system. I’m not sure why, it’s not like I haven’t seen one before, but it’s just made me feel so cheap. Did I bring this on? Am I over reacting?
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WTH not normal at all and such a pervy response to your innocent banter
That’s fucking gross omg
no you didnāt ābring this onā. this is not on you, i promise.
Honestly I can see how he got there.
The dick pic problem has two facets:
It shows that he was already thinking with his dick, that is, it makes it obvious that his mind was focused on sex but he was trying to keep the conversation more civilized not because he wanted to actually connect with you, but just because he feared you would back off things got sexual too soon.
It’s a shitty pic. Things might have gone down differently if he sent you a tasteful picture of just the outline under his clothes, with good lighting and a better angle. Not one taken on a bathroom stall…
NOOOOO š. Itās like when you smile at a guy and they think youāre flirting, but worse. No you did not bring that on nor are you overreacting. Run for the hills!
Is it common enough I think everyone has gotten one idiot like ‘obviously a dick pic will make her like me’ yes.
Is it normal? No. Dude is dumb and I don’t blame you for losing all attraction there because his only understanding of being excited for the date is dick related. And at not even having the decency or intelligence by this age to give you a heads up so you don’t pull out your phone in public to dick.
Edit: Also, dittoing not your fault he’s this dumb. You didn’t tell him I want to see your dick.
Dic pics are normal but guys who send them unsolicited are immature or not very intelligent from my observation. So what this means is that there are a lot immature and unintelligent people out there. At a minimum, he should have found a tasteful way to tell you that heād like to share that with you and ask for your permission or opinion or something.
He chose to do that. You didn’t bring anything on.
Those pics aren’t normal especially if they weren’t asked for. And 99% of the time they aren’t requested. Drop him immediately if he makes you feel uncomfortable.
Whenever a guy did that to me I would blow up his phone with dozens of pictures of Shrek and Peppa Pig until I got blocked. Just so they feel what it’s like to receive unwanted messages.
I had a few friends that when they get dick pics, they report them to the police. In 100% of the cases, these pics were not requested or wanted.
Normalize not sending sexy photos.
Unless you expressly say āplease text me a picture of your penis,ā you havenāt done anything to ābring this onā. Even saying āI like sex,ā or āI want to see you excited,ā or ādo you happen to have any body parts that you like to hold up next to a TV remote in a poorly-lot room?ā Unless there is enthusiastic consent, itās a violation.
The type of guy to send an unsolicited dick pic is the also the type who will grasp at any possible way they can even tangentially remotely make something into innuendo to justify it. Though they will also sometimes just send the dick pic without even a vague hint of it being requested or welcomed.
Itās a power play, brute-forcing their way past any women who block or complain (as that means they have boundaries, which are the bane of this kind of shitstain). Like how internet scammers purposely leave a bunch of errors in their phishing emails; they know that anyone who does click the link despite all the poor grammar or typos has signaled they are gullible/vulnerable.
Then they – dick pic guys or Nigerian scammers – can focus their energy on the ones they can pressure into giving them what they want.
Fuck this guy, metaphorically.
Sounds like a miscommunication and he may have taken your comment as a hint that you wanted to see him aroused. If you said you wanted to see him excited he may have thought you meant it another way or that it was a sexual innuendo. IME no, unsolicited dick pics aren’t that common. But saying you want to see a man “excited”, I can see how some would understandably misinterpret that.
Unsolicited dick pics are so gross, and I fully support reporting them to the police.
In your case, I can see how he got there. A lot of ppl like receiving then confidentially. Based on what you said I can understand why he thought that’s what you meant