Update: My cousin’s mad I don’t want to date her cheater friend.

Original post is on my account if you’re interested in context.

So for a few days I entertained my cousin, Leah (the girl who cheated), and a few friends pestering me because I was confused and amused by a bunch of women trying to force me to date someone. I’m not ugly (at least in my opinion) but I am not worth this amount of work to try and win over when I’ve already said no a dozen times.

I sent my cousin the following text and that seems to have settled the issue.

“Hey, I know you guys are just looking out for Leah, but you have to know that dragging this out and pushing me to date her when I don’t want to is doing more harm that good for her. You’re giving her false hope when I’ve been very honest with her and you that this isn’t happening. Let’s assume I do what you ladies want and go out with Leah. Let’s even assume I fall for her and we get serious. I will spend the rest of my life with a nagging insecurity in the back of my head that she’s going to do the same thing she did to Josh to me. I don’t want a relationship where I can’t even trust the person I’m with. And as my family you should love me enough to not want that for me either. Just drop it because I don’t want my relationship with you to suffer because of this. Please just respect my wishes and let it go.”

She replied with a “Understood. End of discussion then. Love you.”

Leah sent me a text with “I’ll respect your wishes on this. If you ever change your mind know that you’re a great guy and I’d still be open to giving us a shot, but this is the last I’ll mention it unless you do change your mind.”

So that’s it. It’s over. I have no idea why I was being harassed about this, but I’m no longer getting texts about it so I’m moving on. Now if I can just find a woman who hasn’t cheated or isn’t a closet asexual that would be great.