So, me(21F) and my bf(21M) are together for 4 years. We are high school sweethearts and are currently in an LDR because we study in different parts of the world. He is everything I could wish for (though he isn’t secretly testing if I can be trusted with his hypothetical millions of money, lmao). We plan to marry after finishing our degrees and plan our whole life together. The chemistry is good; we have a lot to discuss and are feeling good together despite any personal problems. We’ve had our honeymoon and power struggle stages and have grown a lot emotionally—I never thought being committed to a relationship would make you so much wiser.
Anyways, what I’m concerned about isn’t a particularly unique issue. All the time we’ve been together has had some emotional ups and downs, but now I’m not sure what I’m feeling.
Like, I don’t feel this overwhelming happiness when we are together. Obviously, love is not all about emotions, but about choosing the person every single day, and I am and will continue to choose him. But I don’t have anyone else in a healthy long-term relationship to discuss this with, and I have no idea how it’s supposed to feel. I remember getting super excited and having all those butterflies and being ready to do whatever it takes to spend time with him, but now it’s just…? I’m glad you exist and we are together; however, am I supposed to feel nothing compared to what I have felt?
Also, I am sure LDR affects the pace of our relationship, making us progress slower, but I still don’t think it’s the age we are supposed to have this.
So, what I’m asking for is to hear some opinions on this , and I’d be happy to read other people’s stories. Thank you all in advance!
tldr: i don’t get the butterflies in my long term ldr relationship and I don’t know if it’s okay