My husband and are are 31yo childhood sweethearts with an 8yo boy, bought our dream house last August and 3 hours ago, after picking him up drunk from.a night out, I find sexual texts and photos. They don’t suggest they had sex and he denies it but I’ve been on his google maps timeliness and he has visited what I believe to be her flat (from messages “open the door”) 10 times in the last month, each visit over an hour so I’m 100% sure he has. I genuinely thought we were happy, we’re both from broken homes and have talked about how lucky we are as a family on multiple occasions. I know He’s crossed a line I can never forgive so I have to leave him but how? What do we tell our sweet boy, I feel like I’ve been waiting for this day to come (few text message incidents with him over the years but nothing more) and I am terrified. How do you do it? How can you ever trust anyone again?
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Oh babe, I am so sorry. He absolutely has slept with her. You have all the proof you are going to get. He is never going to confess that. He deserves no benefit of the doubt here. He has betrayed you and is now trying to control the narrative. Biggest of hugs my friend.
Oh love, this is so sad. I’m sorry. This betrayal hurts. You know what happened. There are no good explanations for how often he’s been at her place and for an hour+ each time.
You tell your sweet boy that sometimes parents can love each other a lot and still know it’s not the right decision to stay together.
He’s going to have lots of feelings about it, but you’re an adult making adult decisions. He won’t be able to understand it until he’s much older. Just love him through it and release your cheating ex-husband into a lake of piranhas.