I (24F) woke up this morning and got my period a week early. I had spotting yesterday but chalked it up to missing a birth control pill and went to bed without a tampon/pad. I was sleeping with my boyfriend (23M) at his apartment. His mattress and sheets are stained and I am working to get them out. He is mad and hasn’t talked to me for a few hours saying that he doesn’t believe the stain will come out.
I obviously feel bad but there’s no way I could’ve predicted this. And as a woman, this feels like it’s pretty low stakes. AITAH? Does my boyfriend have a right to be mad?
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As a guy, I wouldn’t be mad.
Tell him to stop being such a little bitch.
dude, as someone with irregular periods and heavy bleadings i can do nothing about that is insane. I cant put my hand around these kind of males who have absolutely no empathy. Tell that boy that mama wants him back.
He is an idiot.
Put some peroxide on it….. it’ll be fine….. it’s an accident…. He need to grow up
Ditch this immature man child
You can chuck the sheets in the washing machine and they’ll be as good as new. Maybe a bit of vanish spray on the mattress to get rid of the stains as well. This sort of thing is perfectly normal and he’s an AH for making a fuss about it instead of giving you chocolate.
wtf that should be a quick ex, I cannot tell you how many times i have cleaned sheets for this very reason, not s single word said. Its just life.
Bro what is your bf for a dick 😂 I would find it funny and comfort my gf if she feels bad. Like it can happen and yeah ofc it’s annoying to clean it but who cares
Truly honestly have bled on boyfriends mattresses, blankets, sheets, clothes. It comes out. He’s being a loser, having your period sucks enough already, don’t let him make you feel worse
Nope, you can’t control when you get your period and I feel he shouldn’t be mad about something like this
Strange reaction. He sounds immature.
He can be upset that it happened but honestly he can’t be mad at an accident. You also could’ve had a nosebleed in the middle of the night and ended up with the same mess. If his issue is “it’s gross” then I’d seriously reconsider his dick privileges as why would he want to stick his dick somewhere “gross”?
Use cold water, remove the stain completely before drying the sheets. Blot the mattress as much as possible and use cold water rag/sponge to remove as much as you can, when there is very little left that seems like it won’t come out, use hydrogen peroxide and dab the mattress, and sheets, it will remove biologic stains then wash the sheets and blot mattress with clean water to remove the H2O2.
NTA. Periods don’t always happen like clockwork. Stains happen. Keep working on it, and then buy him a mattress protector, which he should have had anyway because bodily fluids gush when you’re a sexually active person.
Him being mad about it and not talking to you tells me this is someone who is not mature enough to be in a relationship.
What an idiot. He should have a mattress protector. Just throw the sheets in the washing machine on cold and check the stain is gone before drying. NTA
He’s over reacting
my abusive ex got really angry because i got my period when he was fucking me. he blamed me and said i did it on purpose. he was actually the biggest idiot ive dated and he ended up being abusive to me and his dog, so i left his ass. and i’m glad he has a stain on his bed to remember me by 😂
Are you sure your bf isn’t on his period?
INFO: how long has he been your boyfriend?
he’s 24… not 14. if you’ve been together over 6 months/ a year this is wild behavior… he clearly enjoys use of that same vagina regularly does he not?? but a tiny bit of blood that can come out w that pink stuff oxy stain remover whatever tf but honestly????
BLEED MORE GIRL. COVER THE WHOLE BED AND NEVER TALK TO HIM AGAIN.
Mad over something you literally have no control over? It was an accident. He needs to grow up. You apologized and you’re the one scrubbing the bed when you probably feel like crap. To give you the silent treatment over something like that is childish.
You are dating a child.
Keep a mattress protector on the mattress. It protect from all body fluids.
Your boyfriend sounds like a cunt.
Does he realize you’re a female? Does he understand this is part of being a female? I’d have a hard time if my partner got angry over something that is biological and not always predictable. NTA, but he definitely is.
He should be grateful you’re in his bed, but people are strangely squeamish about this.
are you his first girlfriend? I get it, it sucks, but being mad for hours because of your period? does he think you can schedule your period? so many questions
anyway, try vinegar or hydrogen peroxide at the spot for some minutes and use water to clean it after.
Why are you even entertaining someone who behaves in this way? It’s not normal or healthy behavior.
He’s gonna be what he is but yeah, this has immature, lack of experience written all over it… clean it as much as you can… OXY clean works best… give him a few days and tell him to get over himself if he still is moody…
Your BF obviously isn’t mature enough to be in a relationship with a woman if period blood offends him so much.
NTA.
Weird thing to be upset about…
Bro I get period blood accidentally on my man sometimes, so if he wanted to throw a fit about accidental stains I would laugh in his face. Of course I would also clean my mess with peroxide, but a stained mattress matters literally 0% compared to anything else in your house that could be stained
NTA
Your boyfriend is an idiot. What does it even matter if there are some remains of that stain on the mattress? You put a sheet on that anyways. Also: it’s in sickness and in health. If you were serious about this relationship, I would end it now. If your partner cannot deal with the fact that you have a human body then he is not proper partner material.
He’s being a petulant child. Tell him to grow up.
Stop dating this moron
Dump him.
This is man who will not be by your side if you are ever faced with a serious health challenge. This situation has illuminated who he actually is – do not disregard what a gift you have been given.
That childish af if he doesn’t understand periods he problem shouldn’t be in a relationship
Please remember to take your birth control pills because getting pregnant with this man baby would be a nightmare
Oh no no no, that is NOT ok. Do you see a future with this person? Because if he’s flipping out about this, wait til you’re pregnant…
Please leave. Think about life…the ups and downs… he can’t handle a little blood (and he ain’t even cleaning it), let alone hold your hand through the hard stuff.
NTA He sounds and acts too childish to be in a grown-up relationship. Women go thru enough dealing with our periods. We don’t need immature little boys to add to the grief!
What a man baby… if he doesn’t like it, tell him to go date men. You have to think about how he’ll react on other stuff… this could be the first occurrence of many many red flags.
Your boyfriend is a bitch.
When I was 23 I had been in an off and on online LDR with a guy for 5 years. Finally ended up driving 17 hours to meet and what do you know, I unexpectedly got my period all over his white bedding! I freaked out, but he stayed calm and went to the store to buy me hydrogen peroxide and tampons. I felt horrible and was super embarrassed but he assured me that these things happen and it was okay.
NTA, but your boyfriend is!
Your boyfriend is a bitch. I mean really. We do not control our periods and sometimes accidents happen – dude needs to go home to mommy so she can explain.
Absolutely no right to be mad, that’s not a good look for him. It’s a natural body function females go through, every guy knows this. Don’t feel bad, he should apologize for being so rude about it, not your fault.
hydrogen peroxide in the next 8 hours. also, dump him 🤷🏻♀️
I’m a believer is a mattress protector. I had a sleep number bed for years that had one on it, to not void the warranty initially. The remote with it ages it, but it still works. Once I gave it away, I suggested a mattress protector. Looked like they didn’t listen as in a short time was such a huge stain. At least it wasn’t mine any more. Peroxide. Try spraying hydrogen peroxide on it. The fresher such a stain, the easier it is to clean.
If he stays your bf and quits being mad, if he doesn’t buy a mattress protector then he is asking for accidents.
This reminds me of a story I heard in from a guy in college, there was a guy and his girlfriend we’ll call them Paul and Laura for the story (not real names).
Paul was at Laura’s when they where having some sexy time. All of a sudden Laura sneezed and massacred the bed, she was devastated running from the room in tears of embarrassment.
Paul felt awful for her so decided to make a joke of it to lighten the mood. Laura finally entered the room again to find Paul playing dead right next to the blood patch.
Now I found this hilariously supportive (everyone in this story was under 17 at this point, in the UK vocational college starts at 16-17). I don’t think I head ever heard a better love story at that age, boys at this age can be pretty immature and that can lead to harsh words. I thought it was such a nice way to be immature but not mean and also he respected her space and didn’t follow her out when she left, giving her some space to get herself back together.
Anyways Laura DID NOT find this funny at all. She broke up with him that day. Paul told me and others this story as he never could understand why she left him, I couldn’t either honestly but some girls said they got it.
Moral of the story is find someone who is on your level and date them, you are NTA and there’s somebody out there for you that knows that. I’m even sure theres someone out there on your boyfriends level as well who would let such a small thing ruin their day!
I see potential wife abuser in this BF. If he’s mad about this, he is probably wanting a bang maid.
He’s a damn child.
NTA
Accidents happen.
He’s being ridiculous.
NTA. Get rid of the stain and then the man.
NTA, natural cicle of a woman’s body, with a wife and three daughters I cleaned a lot of mishaps. Why is he angry? Immature asshole, sound like an ex soon.
Yup…ur the AH….for staying with this immature manboy. Sit him down, explain the facts of life to him and if he can’t accept it or understand it…..bounce wit a quickness.
tell cuh to man up
are you sure this is an adult
it turns out relationships with women involve bodily fluids.
Women keep this part of our lives from men who then have an almost child like notion of women. If he wants to have a relationship with somebody who isn’t as messy as the female body – he should look to his own gender
NTA
once you’re done with your best efforts to clean it, leave. the place, the boy (not man) and move on and find yourself a man who is an actual adult.
Also sorry that happened, its nerve wracking and crappy, feel better, treat yourself to something nice on the way home, ice cream or doughnuts
He sounds like a real winner. Run away while you can.
Tell him to grow the fuck up, what a man baby
NTAH
This is a red flag. You should not be treated like this over something you couldn’t control.
When my husband and I first started dating, I woke up one morning and had spotted through. He did not get mad. He found a pad that his cousin had left at their house for me and tied his favorite hoodie around my waist to take me home. He did not care that I might get his hoodie dirty or got his bed dirty but he cared about my comfort. We were the same ages as you are now. If he is getting mad at you for something natural that you can not control, what happens when you actually make a mistake about something?
Also if he is squeamish about people having periods, maybe he should be dating a man.
Spray n wash should get it out. My little girl gets bloody noses in the winter and that has taken blood out of her light colored clothing.
As for your boyfriend, he sounds like an AHole. We’re women, we have periods, it happens. It’s not like we do it on purpose. Part of being in a relationship is dealing with the ugly parts like sickness and bodily functions. He sounds really immature
Does no one use the mattress pads.
Who the fuck doesn’t have a mattress protector
This is a big red flag.
He’s not a partner or someone you should spend your life with. He’s stonewalling you and punishing you for an accident.
A stained mattress is not a big deal. They make mattress covers.
Buy him a mattress cover and a set of sheets and then dump him.
Hydrogen peroxide will get it right out
Leave him and the dirty sheets behind. Thank the baby Jesus that he showed his true colors early enough for you to get the fuck out.
Peroxide gets rid of bloodstains
Dumping gets rid of manbabies
You’re NTA, but a man who gets mad over periods is a man who can’t be relied on when a relationship inevitably goes through worse times. Cut your losses now. Adulthood is full of messy situations and a partner should be a help, not an added problem.
Use cold water so the stain doesn’t set. There are products that can reduce the stain. Hydrogen peroxide can – although it also dissolves some fabrics so be careful. I’ve done that and one feels bad, but how many times have you washed your sheets to remove his jism? (And he likely looked at his big puddle with great pride…. Maybe you should stand over your stain and loudly proclaim, Who’s the Woman now, brah?!!). Trade offs, babe.
Any man who can’t handle the fact that women menstruate should never be allowed anywhere near the body parts involved. Like, not even in the same room.
If he’s this upset over bodily fluids, he would make a horrible father. Dump the chump and find someone who is more mature.
NTA.
It’s a bodily function. And it helps weed out idiots who can’t deal.
Cold water and salt should be good for what you can soak.
Breaking up will fix the rest.
NTA. Last month, my period came a week early too, it happens to all women. He shouldn’t be mad when u didn’t know that you got ur period, it happens, and he needs to understand that. He’s not gonna be able to date women if he can’t handle a period blood accident as simple as yours.
Boyfriend is a child, break up with him and date and adult.
Hydrogen peroxide is your best bet at getting the stain out
Hydrogen peroxide gets blood out easily. What a little baby.
Hydrogen Peroxide. Just spray it and it comes out.
Now that won’t take the misogyny out of him. But leaving will.
Any man that can’t handle some period blood needs to grow up.
Can you imagine a future with this guy? Don’t know if you want kids, but if you do, he better be able to handle messes.
Sounds like an immature quick to be upset individual.
He’s childish AF. Walk away and leave him to deal with his stupid self.
How would he feel if he’d been ill, threw up on your mattress because he couldn’t get to the bathroom quickly, and you spent hours huffing and pouting and complaining about the stains while he was doing his best to clean it up? Would he consider that acceptable girlfriend behavior, or would he think you were acting like a callous b—- over something that wasn’t his fault?
NTA.
Maybe he barely had woman in his life so he doesn’t understand periods.
Still stupid though
I was 4 months into the relationship with my now hubby, I had a heavy period one night and I woke up and it was all over me and his sheets/mattress. We laughed it off and he tried his best to clean it and not once made me feel bad about ruining his new mattress or sheets. He actually made me a cup of hot chocolate and took me to the store to buy pads. I think your bf should be your EX BF. You deserve better!
OP I accidentally bled all over my partners bed because I’m irregular. You know what they did while I cried and panicked over it? They got me a heating pad, some chocolate, got me a tampon (quietly) and threw the sheets in the washer. They also have a younger sister so it helps. They told me it is not an issue at all. your dude sounds like a total immature AH but you are definitely NTA
Tide pens or the spray version gets blood stains out quite wonderfully. And both are inexpensive/a great item to have on hand or carry around. I have endometriosis and my cycles are HEAVY. Even with overnight pads AND ultra tampons, I’d spill over. NTA. But that little boy you’re dating is.
I have it because my daughter and I leak here and there, at home and instead of being annoyed at our expensive couch getting spotted, we just immediately clean it and voila! The stain is gone.
As an aside, if he’s had girlfriends before or expects to be involved with women, then he needs to not be a little bitch and not be annoyed at nature.
This is why you don’t sleep with dusties.
Ill be honest with you, I would never stay with a man who behaved like this. You need to do some serious self-reflection. Do you want to spend your whole life with a grown ass man who gives you the silent treatment for complete accidents?
Honestly sounds like he should be your ex boyfriend. That’s an absolutely ridiculous thing to get mad about. If he’s going to get that mad over a natural body function you can’t control I can’t imagine what else is going to trigger him into a toddler tantrum.
Use hydrogen peroxide on the stains then dump his childish ass. What happens when you’re having sex and it starts your period? Will he scream and cry while running into the bathroom to wash his dick off? That kinda shit happens to women all the time. He isn’t mature enough to be around a vagina. He’s a loser.
Bro that’s such a childish thing to be upset about holy crap, imagine if you have a child with this dude, and that child ends up being female, if he treated her that way how would you feel?
You can’t make dudes like this grow up, they have to embarrass their way to growing tf up lol
Please remember to take your pills if you stay with this man, as someone else stated, having a child with this guy would be a disaster
If you want to have a woman you’re going to have to deal with these things. Imagine if he has a daughter and she does something like this is he going to make her ashamed of her own body
You’re dating a bitch made little boy.
NTA. He is a whiny little boy.
Your boyfriend is a cunt.
Tell bf to grow up. If his anger persists, you know what to do. NTA
He needs to grow up.
NTA
The first time I had a period accident with my boyfriend (now husband) we’d been together about a month. I woke up in the middle of the night and it was everywhere, he sent me to shower whilst he stripped the bed and scrubbed the mattress. Not one word of complaint.
It’s happened a few times since. PCOS and endometriosis make for very irregular heavy periods, we just invested in a mattress protector.
Your boyfriend sounds like an immature man-baby. Accidents happen.
Nah because now I’m writing my name in blood on the mattress then never talking to him again.
Sounds like a sign from above. Leave, or you will be guilty for things that are out of your control, forever.
Immature.
Dump him.
NTA. Red flag here hun. He’s an immature dick
No. Imagine if y’all had a child and they wet the bed or start their period, is this the reaction you want? Thank you, next.
Would he have behaved the same way if it had been a bloody nose? Or is he just disgusted about women’s bodies specifically? Either way accidents happen, and he’s pathetic for behaving this way. You’re NTA, but he sure is.
he is a child
He is immature.
Frankly sounds like you should ditch him. Speaking as a male he’s being a drama queen over something that’s not that important. If he reacts like this to an accident then what’s his reaction to an actual emergency ? Sounds like you’re sorry and trying to fix the problem..You can do no more…
Next mattress he/you will have a mattress pad/cover. After our dog puked on our old bed and stained the mattress we got a mattress pad, I didn’t get mad at the dog for puking.
When we got a new mattress it’s had a protective cover since day one. Much easier to replace the cover than the mattress.
Break uo with him. “I need some time apart”. Watch his passive aggression melt away.
There are two kinds of men: the kind that have shit the bed and the kind that will shit the bed. He’s in for a rude awakening some morning.
What douche. He will pee on the seat and care less. Leave.
Break up with the child 🙂
Your ex boyfriend has the right to be single.
What a disgusting man you ex is. Truly hope he doesn’t breed, marry or talk to a woman until he sorts his issues out because what he did was incredibly unkind and callous
I’m not one to usually run to “dump him”, but DUMP HIM!
This is just the beginning of issue and issue after issue he’s going to have with something.
Nope out now.
Seriously use Hydrogen Peroxide, it should lift it all right out.
NTA.
This is a peek into your future life with him.
Run.
NTA. Posts like this make me eternally grateful for my husband.
as I say in all these posts:
break up with him.
if he’s this immature about something thats beyond your control he’ll only get worse.
23 M cant handle women natural body functions? Ditch him
I had a buddy whose ex once PURPOSEFULLY smeared her period blood on him from chest to groin….marking him maybe?
That was gross.
Accidentally bleeding on some sheets…this dude can gtfo.
Time for a new boyfriend. Preferably one who is an adult.
“My bf is a child and doesn’t understand basic biology, he’s mad because I’m a woman. He’s an asshole.”
FTFY, OP.
He needs some period education stat. Also, mix equal parts water, peroxide and borax in a spray bottle and it will get the stain out like it never happened. I left a huge period stain on a hookups bed and he didn’t even gaf, so for your own bf to be mad 🚩
How are these immature “men” getting girlfriends? Unbelievable
Soon to be husband isn’t phased by anything feminine. Captain redwings over here doesn’t even want to avoid the act when it’s ragtime merriment here. A good bath and he’s on it! Best cure for cramps ever. Yeet small D energy there to the curb. You’re being emotionally abused for something that is gonna be a thing once a month. The silent treatment is abuse. Let him go find the man of his dreams and don’t be a beard for a fool.
Make that your ex boyfriend.
Use your spit. Our own spit has enzymes that break up our blood. If its not coated head to toe and just a spot, just use your spit. It will get it completely out. After that, leave that piece of shit.
Ma’am it’s illegal to be in a relationship with a child
So he doesn’t want a woman, just a fuck hole. NTA
If it was a brand new mattress he just dropped a lot of money on, sure, I could see being frustrated about it. But not (visibly) for more than 10-15 minutes. And certainly not at YOU.
Life will give you signs.
People will give you signs.
He’s showing you his right now. Believe him.
You’re boyfriend is a loser
He sounds like a total drama queen.
On my 4th or 5th date with a guy, this same thing happened, except on his couch in his apartment he shared with roommates. I was mortified, but he simply told me to go to the bathroom and take care of whatever I needed to take care of. When I came back, he could tell I was still very embarrassed and he hugged me, told me not to worry about it at all, he totally understood, and we never talked about it again. I’m married to him now.
You’ve not done anything wrong. But you need to decide how you’re going to let yourself be treated. Real men respond with love and compassion.
Um, no, babes. He does not have a right to be mad. You didn’t make the choice to free bleed all over his bed, the f? It came early, it’s a natural process that we as women have to suffer/deal with because men couldn’t handle it if they had to have a cycle. The pain, the bloat, PMS, the mess, the $ it costs to take care of yourself hygiene wise, etc. They’d lose it if they had to deal with that.
This was an accident. It’s not a big deal at all. I’m so sorry he is making you feel like this is your fault and that you’ve done something wrong. You haven’t. I other parts of the world, women are shunned the week of their period and many have died because they are forced to live in makeshift shacks in turbulent weather when they are menstruating. 3rd world countries dude.
Your bf is behaving like a juvenile. I’m certain he has no complaints when you guys are intimate. Now when there’s a tiny thing like a period he pours and stonewalls you? Get all of your things, and go home. Take care of yourself this weekend, go shopping or get a pedicure, or both. This is ridiculous.
FWIW: Baking soda and peroxide with water might lighten the stain. Your bf can invest in a mattress protector if he can’t handle the site of a little blood.
Please reevaluate if this guy is worth it. This won’t be your last period after all. I’m sorry again.
Stop trying to remove the stain and remove him instead. In this day and age and with the amount of access and information about normal bodily functions, his reaction is immature and, frankly, concerning. Does he get mad at you for other things out of your control? You deserve better, sis.
Edited cuz apparently I don’t know how to use my words properly😬
Your BF – what a total ass-wipe. Use hydrogen peroxide to get rid of the blood stains then start looking for a non-pouty man, not the child you’re with now. He’s acting like you did this on purpose to him, the idiot.
Every woman has had an accident of this type at some point or another. Your boyfriend is a moron. Not talking to you because of normal body function that happened? He’s the asshole.
I’m a thirty something year old woman but with little experience with men. I got so embarrassed staining sheets with my husband, who never, EVER makes a big deal out of it, never shames me and just reminds me I have a body that leaks sometimes, and that’s okay.
I hope you find someone who loves you as you are, periods and all! ❤️
Stop talking to him.
I’ve been with my gf for 5 years, she bled through my old mattress a few times, it didn’t bother me much at all, I just started to use mattress protectors which actually made my bed more comfy. Two years ago we got a new bed, there’s currently 2 maybe 3 stains on this one as well.
He’ll be alright. And if he isn’t, he’s just being a bitch. If he doesn’t want to be with someone who bleeds naturally, he can try being gay.
They make hydrogen peroxide products that you can spray, and scrub in and the blood will fade if he’s that insecure about it. I’d be worried he will yell at you for getting night sweats too.
Nah, you’re not the AH here-bodies do what bodies do, and periods don’t exactly send a calendar invite. It sucks that his mattress got stained, but acting like you committed a crime over an accident is a major overreaction
Some men don’t understand bleeding is involuntary so make sure your boyfriend understands it’s not like peeing where you can hold it!
If he understands and won’t drop it and apologize to you for making such a huge deal I would reconsider the relationship (assuming you want to be with a man and not a child)!
So if he can’t handle a little period 🩸 he shouldn’t be able to call himself a “man” at the age of 23. Also if you haven’t, download the Flo app, it’ll help keep track of your period days while you’re on BC BUT in all honesty, he is overreacting because this is human nature women go through