I just turned 34 and ended an 11-year relationship. I always thought I’d be married with kids by now, but instead, I’m starting over. I’ve been going on dates, but I can’t seem to connect with anyone—I just feel numb. I don’t have a strong desire to have kids, but I know time isn’t on my side, and I can’t help but feel like I wasted so many years. I have a solid career and a good life on paper, but right now everything just feels kind of meaningless. Has anyone else gone through this? How did you deal with it?
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It sounds like you need to take time to grieve your relationship instead of jumping right into dating. It’s going to be hard to find a good connection if you haven’t processed the end of the relationship and are feeling closed off.
Tbh I think I’m just becoming numb as I age. I suspect it’s a defense mechanism. I’m definitely not where I thought I’d be relationship-wise or anything else for that matter. Numbing is better than feeling let down I guess.
No. I ended a relationship after 7 years together, and i already mourned what i thought was my ideal relationship. I didn’t want to be a relationship story where the girl stayed for far too long and compromised. It works for me because i don’t have strong feelings of having kids either way, and i would rather be alone than be miserable and alone in a relationship.
Same age same situation except I do want children even though it goes against every logical thing I’ve ever thought about having children for the most part. It’s definitely an odd stage of purgatory. So sorry. This is a really tough feeling. You’re not alone.
i’d say take ur time and get back to YOU. freeze your eggs if need be