This is both nature and nuture case. I am 22.I am not smart , never was passionate about something or to use my brain and do something. Very lazy , no self control and determination.Never left my comfort zone . Gets distracted easily.I did above average in school but thats it.
Looking at this statistics of life till 22 years of my age
Is it unrealistic of me to get focused and study hard and crack a good university for my masters later with same determination crack a job in my field. Along side hitting gym and being in shape and developing others skills like public speaking ?
Do people have any upper limit on what they can achieve?
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“Is this life of change even possible?”
Maybe they are, maybe they aren’t.
To be 100% honest with you, I’d bet (I don’t have any statistics to back this up, so take this with a grain of salt), that most people who make it to their 20 with little discipline and self-control will probably continue like that for the rest of their lives. Surely there are a few odd cases of people who turned their lives around or something, but the reason these stories are used as inspiration porn is how rare they are. Had they been common, they’d be just your average Joe’s story and wouldn’t be “inspirational”.
That doesn’t mean you can’t change your life, though.
I mean, take a look a the life you’ve envisioned. Going to a good university, getting a Master’s, passionately starting a great career, hitting the gym and keeping in shape. Is this a good life? Definitely.
But is it the only possible good life? Is it the only life worth living? What if instead of going to a good uni and getting a Master’s, instead you go to a decent uni and get no Master’s at all? Or what if you don’t go to an Uni but go to trade school or develop some other marketable skill? What if you don’t have a great career, but have a career that’s good enough to provide you with some financial stability and make you able to afford some treats and nice things here and there? What if you don’t hit the gym religiously and don’t get a great shape, but instead hit it intermittently or instead go jogging, and that happens to be enough to keep you healthy, even if not good-looking? What if you never develop the ability to speak in public and pretty much piss yourself whenever you have to talk to three strangers at the same time, but somehow develop the skill to say the right thing to motivate or console your friends and families whenever they’re feeling down? What if your turn into that weird neighbor that gives weird but good advice to the local kids? Or what if you’re not good at all when it comes to speaking, whether it’s public speaking, giving advice and consoling friends, but you still develop some other skill, like making nice food? Or what if you have no skills at all, but you still mean the world to some stray animals you rescue?
Wouldn’t those other lives be worth living as well?
Sure, it still takes a degree of effort to live those lives as well, and for someone with no “discipline” and por self-control, that kind of effort may still feel unrealistic.
But then I’ll ask you the same question I asked myself when I was in the same situation:
“What other choice do you have?”
I mean, unless you have another plan to pursue something else you might want, another kind of life you might want to live, then there’s really no other choice but to keep fighting and putting in the work. I know sometimes it feels like we’re fundamentally broken, dumb, lazy and our efforts are all fruitless because of that, or that we’re too broken to even put in some effort, but unless you have an alternative plan, then you don’t have a rational choice but to keep trying. No matter how unrealistic things seem to be, time will pass anyway and you only have one life to live. No matter how bad you feel or how much the odds are stacked against you, your chances of achieving your dreams (or at least achieving something half as good as your dreams) may be very small, but if you give up and don’t do anything, then the chances decrease to zero, so there’s no other rational choice other than keep trying, no matter how imperfectly.
Still, it’s very important to be gracious and realistic with yourself. If you planned to do the thing but couldn’t get yourself to it, then don’t go “I didn’t do the thing, I’m such a loser” and instead go with “I didn’t do the thing. Heh, no ideal but not really a surprise. I’ll try extra hard to do it tomorrow”. Instead of thinking “This is hopeless and I don’t know what to do” say “This seems to be hopeless, but I don’t really have another plan so I’ll keep trying and see where it takes me. Maybe tomorrow I’ll have a breakthrough and things will become a little better or less fruitless”.
Sorry for the huge rant but I hope it helps you somehow.
Totally possible. First thing I’d do is talk to a legit medical professional about seeing if you can get help/therapy for your attention-span issue.
The fact that you are asking this Q indicates some part of you wants this change. Some people never even question their existence. So you are already ahead of the curve. Grab onto that part of yourself that wants to change. Big things can begin with just one small change. For me, I forced myself to fly to a distant country and get out of my comfort zone. Everything changed after that. For you? Who knows!