I’m 19, male but my parents never allow me to go to any party. They say there people just drink or even do drugs (it is actually true). They are also very controlling, the still us regular corporal punishment with the belt. Are other parents also so controlling with kids at my age?
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They beat you with a belt?? That’s straight up abuse. Are there younger kids in the house?
No. Normal parents are not dictating things like that or spanking a child at 19.
I would stress safety with my child and forbid it if it were a known issue home with hard drugs. I don’t want you to go to prison by association. I would not spank you for it. But I would tell you you have time to get your stuff together and vacate my home if you chose to go to a known hard drug party anyway. I have other kids here and a home I need to protect.
If you live on your own lol, of course not. You’re an adult. Please listen to me but I’m not forbidding shit.
With a belt at any age is abuse and assault. At 19 it’s just sick. Time to get a job and get the hell out of your parent’s house.
I don’t care if there’s some cultural element at play here. Hitting at all is ridiculous and with a belt is criminal and disgusting.
You ask about belt beatings on reddit a lot, like multiple times a week. What’s going on?
At 19 you’re an adult, saying you can’t go to parties is crazy.
As is hitting you with a belt, that’s abuse at any age.
At 19 your parents can’t touch you or they’d go to prison
At 19 I could do whatever I wanted. No limits. Just had to communicate what I would be doing.
19? Your a grown ass man.
You are an adult. Why are you allowing your parents to tell you what to do?
What country do you live in? In many places, using a belt to discipline a child is against the law. Additionally, at the age of 19 you’re not a child anymore, so that just turns into assault/battery at that point.
Plus, because you’re an adult at 19 what your parents “allow you to do” is kind of irrelevant. If you’re still relying on them financially things get a little sticky. I don’t think good parents would threaten your housing for going to a party, but it’s a possibility that not so great parents could do that.
You are an adult who gets beaten by another adult.
You could probably use some drugs
Leave anyways. If they hit you, defend yourself. If you can’t defend yourself, call the police
Hitting is abuse.
Go to the party. You are an adult. And no other parents are as controlling. I hope things get better for you ASAP!