Why were they different and how did you feel towards them vs towards the rest of your friends who were women?
Men with many women friends, what made your partner become your partner?
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Why were they different and how did you feel towards them vs towards the rest of your friends who were women?
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Well I don’t meet my female friends on dating apps. So from the get go it’s framed entirely differently.
She matched my weirdness.
Of all my female friends she was the only one that shared my interest in the existential and absurd, though we approach it completely differently our shared interest was a big factor.
She was the only one of my female friends genuinely excited to go and watch cringe stage productions of Terry Pratchett with me ior and to send me shock sites because she thought it was funny.
We knew each other for years but I always put her down as “that kinda weird goth/alt chick” until our interests started to overlap. She introduced me to ttrpgs and Warhammer, I introduced her to mighty boosh and Monty Python and now those are things we both share a common interest in.
With a lot of my other female friends at the time our shared interests were more superficial, we weren’t each as invested in those shared interests
We’ve been together 8 years and while it’s been tough, and we’ve both changed and there are retreats and resentment, I still love her and there are still way more moments of genuine shared enthusiasm and fun than there are disagreements or arguments.
We have our issues, but I think a lot of those come from our respective upbringings and teenage years more so than issues between us
One of my female friends introduced us.
I’m kind of in the boat where if I meet someone and they become a genuine friend, I place a boundary and dont really think of them in any sort of romantic way. Just seen too much drama within friend groups and if we do breakup, dont think I’d be able to handle seeing them with new people lol. Some guys are fine with it but I dont really know how I’d react because I’ve just never put myself in that position but have seen some of my friends get devastated even if they ended the relationship on good terms and agreed to remain as friends
How did you even get women friends?
There was a romantic interest rather than just a platonic friendship interest.
Ok I was clearly summoned so here I am: I do this thing I call “the ugly truths method” – I sat down with my now wife and explained to her a few things:
I have had crushes on or slept with a number of my female friends
I am still friends with many of these women
I have done my share of dirty deeds in past relationships like cheating etc.
I have committed to change and being better and get better daily.
There’s more details but I am keeping this short.
The reason I do this is because it opens up trust from the get go. I told her all this before we ever made a relationship official so she could make a decision on if I was worth it.
Turns out I was.
We have been happily married since 2020.
What I wanted to avoid was one of my drunk ass male friends telling her shit about me with details and context missing etc. and not hear it from ME at least.
Try it. Just might set your relationship off on the right foot instead of trying to backpedal your transgressions later on.
Differs. Often its expectations for lifegoals and the relationship that make someone a really good friend, but not a good partner. I dont need my friends to agree with me on the same things I would want to agree with a partner on. Similiar with habits and life choices… i cant stand drunken people and i would not want my partner to get drunk, but my friends can do whatever. I probably wont be around, but thats not a hindrance to a friendship, but it probably is to a partnership. If you want to get drunk on family parties and bring your partner, iam not the one for you and vice versa.
I asked her out on dates because I had romantic interest in her
Women, normal hahahhahahahahhahhahahahhahahahaahhahahhahahaha
My current gf was a good friend for over 20 years, and we always got along well, had similar interests and personalities, and really enjoyed spending time together. Two years ago, we fell in love. Best relationship ever for both of us. We really are made for each other. Guess the universe figured it was time for our friendship to reach its full flower. We’ve both never been happier, and know that we’ve both finally found “the one”. Oh, yeah, the sex is fucking amazing, too!
It was pretty deliberate. I went online looking for a romantic partner.
All the requirements are the same, the partner is just more so to each of them. I want honor, loyalty, sense of humor, kind to animals, etc in everyone I associate with. My partner is the one in there I sleep with to the exclusion of the others.
My partner became my partner because she allowed me to lead. I’m a leader at work, when I played sports, and in a relationship. She trusts me and respects me, so she listens. I am not 100% always right in what I do, as a young man I did/do have some habits and vices that I had to listen to her about. But that’s the thing I respect, trust, and therefore listen to her. This isn’t about submission either. This is about trust and respect. Blind love and blind trust go hand in hand IMO.
My women friends were just that, friends. I’d consider their advice and vice versa. But we were our own people. They didn’t lead me, I didn’t lead them. It’s the same as talking/doing shit w your guy friends but with some differences in perspectives and experiences.
I don’t have to live with my friends or spend the majority of free time with them.
Like stop and think about the friends you have. They might be great to hang with for a few hours, but how many would you need a break from? How many do you think you could live with? How many have similar life goals?
There are just so many things that need to line up well for a relationship that are irrelevant to a friendship.
Because she loved me for me.
She didn’t mind my interests, or quirks. She wasn’t trying to change me or mold me. She let me be me.
I have a lot of female friends, but there is no way we would be compatible in relationship.
My circle of friends is 100% female.
My partners become my partners because I fell in love with them, and not with others that I have a friendship and/or sex with – there’s really nothing more to it.
I have a few friends that are women and I also had a hoe phase when I met my significant other.
She was just leagues more attractive than any woman I have ever been with which I thought was impossible and is literally a running gag amongst my girl friends that I am the only one who managed to only go up after dating a real model, and she was smart, funny, a genuinely good person, talented as fuck.
I love my friends but damn, this woman is the one woman I hope to be lucky enough to wake up next to everyday. I never get tired of her, when the things she does that annoy me stop I get sad.
Also she is somehow a great cook at every food that I suck at.
Together we are perfect.
I’m not physically attracted to any of my female friends. When I met my wife I thought she was hot and wanted to date her. She happened to also end up being a great person.