I swear omg I can’t keep texting this person to make plans. I have to keep REPEATING myself and I hate repeating myself. I’ll send a full text about dates, times, places etc. In a text for like i said plans, but it’s like they ask the information AGAIN. I JUST SENT ALL THE INFORMATIONNNNNN. I feel bad cause they have dyslexia so its not her fault, but i have barely have any patience with them. Its like when you text something and they say what.. not what as in omg, but what as in I don’t get what you mean. Its a pretty clear text I don’t know how else to explain it. Look at the text above and READ IT AGAIN. Other things I’ve noticed it when they text others (cause we’re in a group chat).Sometimes it’s something “oh I can do said thing with this” and they be like “I dont know if you can”. Im not asking do you think I can, IM SAYING I AM DEFINITELY DOING SAID THING CAUSE I KNOW I CAN
Everytime we are thinking about going to some place, and I know a place and I’m like its over to some direction, its like she is processing it as a question and says “i don’t know it might be”. IM NOT ASKING, NO IM SAYING THE PLACE IS THAT DIRECTION FOR THE LOVE OF FXUKWHAGU.
Or even places for when im saying to go for an urgently, not as an emergency but some places I need to go and we are on a time crunch. I need to get some things from the store. Im not saying to let’s think are we gonna make it, no I need to go said place cause I need things. I dont care if they are closing on the dot. If there is a small chance we can get there like 5 min before im taking it cause I need said stuff. Let’s not debate whether we should go or not let’s gooOOOoooOOoooo. Its like they don’t understand urgency and it ANNOYS THE CRAP OUT OF ME. IM TAKING MY DANG CHANCES
They are a good person, I love being friends with them, but I HATE trying to figure stuff out and my patience is so low with them. I feel bad about it cause of there they have mental disabilities so they process things differently, but again it gets so annoying.
I know i should be patient with them and im sorry but it just gets tiring. It really does.
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If she has dyslexia, reading might be difficult. A phone call might be better??
I definitely understand your point, it must be very invalidating to have a friend say those things. However, the erratic style of your grammar in this post made it difficult to read, and I’m not dyslexic. It’s possible that some of your communication issues between you and your friend may stem from your style of talking too.
But back to your point, it might be worth considering telling your friend how her responses make you feel?
I understand it can be frustrating at times and I don’t know if you’re friend has other disabilities besides dyslexia. My sister has dyslexia and is quite intelligent, she’s also an architect, but for example in her case, she has trouble assimilating information from long texts (the same with reading books, etc), so for her is either some sort of “visualization” (for ex. Instead of reading news articles, she prefers to watch the news), if I need to explain something with a lot of details by text, I put in bullet points. If you use WhatsApp, maybe also pin the important information.
Don’t feel bad, communication barriers are really hard. Clearly you love your friend and I’m sure she knows that.
Maybe look up some info on their disabilities and see if there are easier ways to communicate with them. Like certain fonts are easier for dyslexic people to read. Maybe throw in some emojis? A thumbs up is probably easier than reading “Sounds good, see you then.”
It sounds like she also has some trouble with auditory processing too. It could be helpful to organize sentences differently or more directly.
You weren’t raised right
I don’t even have dyslexia and this was still hard to read…sounds like they both could both work on improving their communication
Maybe try being more succinct. Use I statements.Create calendar invites.
Ask your friend if there are formats that are easier to read.
For me this is easier:
Date: 4/17
Time: 5p
Location: Sam’s at 15th and Clarion
Than “hey do you want to do a thing it’s on the 17th. My friend Sarah might be coming too, if she can get away from the office but it’s tax season so she’s not sure. It’s at Sam’s and they usually start at 6 but this time it’s an hour early because they have to close early due to a water main issue.”
But everyone is different so definitely ask. Someone else suggested voice memos – I think that’s a great idea.
Use your phone
What about adding her to a calendar? So you can say “see calendar” and all the info is there and it’s not something you have to waste your time going back over
Deleted account already.
P.S. wait until you meet people like this in the workplace. They are legion
Not being an ass but how old are they? My husband was/is dyslexic but he overcame that in school.he was diagnosed early on. I want to say 6th or 7th grade and then he was taught to read in a way that he would understand. Is he 100%? No he hates reading but he can. Personally I don’t look at that as a mental disability. If that was the case I don’t think you would have the patience to be friends at all.That’s why I was asking. How old is this person?
is there a tl;dr?
Your friend has a reading disability, and your writing is disjointed and confusing for people without dyslexia to read.
Your friend is almost certainly excising a lot of patience trying to communicate with you, too.
Just call your friend and have a conversation with your voices! It’ll be so much easier!