I’m a guy and whenever I go out, I always want girls to have a crush on me. Like I always want them to want me.
I always look good when I go out cuz you know just incase. Why am I like this?
I’m a guy and whenever I go out, I always want girls to have a crush on me. Like I always want them to want me.
I always look good when I go out cuz you know just incase. Why am I like this?
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I can be like this sometimes too, I try not to feed that part of me too much though, it doesn’t make me happy
can’t relate, i prefer notoriety to admiration
I think wanting to be found attractive by the opposite sex is a very normal thing, especially if you are reasonably attractive and you know that girls do find you attractive. Just keep in mind that there is a line where it can become vain and shallow. And keep in mind that its also okay to not be found attractive (everyone has their own tastes). As an attractive female myself I do get some level of confidence from knowing that I am desired or desirable. So i get it. Just have more purpose than that to your day.
Because you’re single and young. It’s a reproductive survival thing! Once you pin yourself down to someone else, it will ease up.
Beware tho – when you are older and with someone, if you still feel this way – it does not age well and slowly becomes creepy.
Biology
It’s not bad to want to be desired and for people to care for you, especially if you’re romantically interested in them. If you think taking care of your appearance is a show of character that people might feel that they appreciate, then it’s not narcissistic. It might be vain if you over prioritize your appearance over substance, but if it’s for the approval of others, then it’s not necessarily wrong. It just depends on why you want their attention and approval. Narcissism usually comes from a place of self-centered obsession and insecurity, and not necessarily vanity. Narcissism could be expressed by looking bad or helpless just for the pity of others because the affirmation that you matter, whether you look good or not, is the only important part. Not liking that you want something is like not liking that you get hungry. Food is not manipulating you into desiring it, and you’re not weak for wanting it. There are people who will manipulate you into liking them, unlike food, but that’s not really what we’re talking about. There’s practical reasons to want people to care about you. Moderation is always the key variable in it though, since you can always unhealthily express extreme neglect or obsession for other people’s opinions of you.
Find other ways to feed your shallow self-worth such as giving back, random acts of kindness, acts of service. In other words, care about others instead of constantly feeding the hungry ego.
You’re constantly seeking external validation and it will be an unwelcome wake up call if/when you no longer receive it. Unless you build your self esteem around things that no one can touch, like your character. ❤️
It’s normal to want to and to like being wanted.
Just don’t get cocky and remember to be kind and respectful
Is it linked to something missing from your childhood? Sometimes our formative years cause subconscious insecurities and habits that we don’t even realise until much older.