As in the title, I find direct contact to the clit to hurt and not be pleasurable at all. I can orgasm with a vibrator pressed on my outer lips on top of the clit- not directly touching. When my BF goes down on me even light touch of the tongue or finger hurts (he knows to avoid it but sometimes happens on accident). Just wondering if this is normal for other women? I’m asking too because it seems that in porn that women love rubbing their own or having theirs rubbed and enjoy the hell out of it. Then again I know porn is unrealistic in many ways which is why I’m coming to Reddit for some answers and other people’s experiences.
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A vibrator feels really good for me both directly and near my mine. Its the easiest way I can orgasm.
I am the same as you. It has gotten less sensitive over the years, but I still don’t like direct stimulation and thats okay. Right above it is the sweet spot. My bf knows not to rub with his fingers like in porn, but uses his whole palm to rub. You’re normal I’d say. Not everyone can mash their bean and enjoy it.
I felt the same and then i realized i needed more foreplay
Hurts for me! Esp after I started T, the bottom growth made even MORE sensitive 😵💫😵💫 i don’t like receiving head because it’s just way too overstimulating
Every body is different. Don’t worry about what works for other people; only worry about the body you’re in. It could be that where they’re touching you is extremely sensitive to the point of being painful. They could try exploring touch around the clit and finding what feels pleasurable for you.
Personally I don’t appreciate it when people are overly aggressive and head straight for the clit without any warm up and even then I’m very particular about the way I DO like to be touched there. After I’ve had one orgasm the way I orgasm changes so that’s another level of complication but it really comes down to communicating that to the partner I’m with.
I’m a guy, so take it with a grain of salt, but believe it or not…everyone is different.
One of my exes preferred rubbing the lips and hood, and then maybe lightly touching or kissing it directly.
Another one preferred me to rub it directly as if I was attempting to start a fire (obviously a bit hyperbole) or even use a vibrator directly on it (with a little pressure too none the less) while using my fingers to penetrate.
The first one also once she orgasmed, wouldn’t want any contact with her clit as it’d be too sensitive.
It never hurts for me. It can be overwhelming or over sensitive, but majority of the time it only feels good
I like when there is stimulation and penetration at the same time, it definitely is a bit too stimulating otherwise.
Thank you all for the input, I’ve been thinking about this and just haven’t posted the question yet cause I genuinely forgot until I was thinking about it. I feel like very validated and can relate to a lot of you all, I appreciate the input
Top down: good times.
Bottom up: please stop touching me before I kick your shins.
Hurts like hell for me unless its super lubricated. A tongue is usually fine as long as they dont have cotton mouth, fingers need to be wet before anything direct. Usually i just prefer mine to be rubbed from my hood