I was just making myself a drink with a straw and I remembered the time a guy I was obsessed with years ago gave me a $2 silicone straw because he knew I hated the paper ones (plastic straws are banned where I live).
It was the only thing he ever bought for me in 2 years of seeing each other. I thought it was the sweetest, most thoughtful thing ever and my heart absolutely swelled every time I used it.
In retrospect it makes me cringe so hard because he was SO awful in every other way! But I took a cheap piece of silicone as a sign that he really loved me 😭 you’d think it was 2 dozen long stem red roses or something
Does anyone else have any similar stories?
DISCLAIMER: Obviously small gestures can be very thoughtful and touching—I am specifically referring to breadcrumbs and scraps that you were way more excited about than you should have been.
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My ex-situationship once said “I love you” after I agreed to be okay with him skipping out on something we’d arranged to do. It was the first and only time he said it, and I was an idiot for thinking he meant it.
He gave me a designer bag, which I was really thrilled about at first before his sister let slip that it was one of his mum’s cast-asides that he basically just pilfered from her wardrobe 😭 Like, the guy literally stole from his own mother just to try to impress some girl he had only known for a month with a fancy gift.
I gave the bag back and dumped him on the spot.
I mean, even a wink or smile would have me thinking I was the luckiest girl in the room.
Luckily with time I realized I don’t deserve crumbs, I deserve the whole SANDWICH.
He apologized for hurting my feelings. He didn’t stop hurting my feelings by constantly saying the things he knew were hurtful to me, but he always apologized. I realize now that if he was really sorry, he would have stopped doing it.
Putting dirty dishes in the sink
Took me awhile to realize it was love bombing. After I caught him lying to me, then lying to me again after I confronted him about it with screenshots, he bought me an LV for Xmas. He was also broke AF and he said he took on extra shifts at work for me. I was like “awwww” and now I’m like “ew wtf.”
Seeing the look of anger on his face after I casually mentioned the time my ex gave me a black eye.
Edit: in context, it’s bare minimum but not at all ridiculous, and he had so many other good qualities that I ended up marrying him.
He missed my birthday. I got a belated birthday wish and asked to go out to a birthday dinner. Then, he half picked the restaurant. Then, he called to see if the promo price included other things – it didn’t. So, he paid full price.
I punished him by drinking a lot of soda in cans (the only non-water/non-alcoholic drink available). The price for 1 can of soda was quite high, and I knew it. Late fees for missing my birthday and trying to cheap out on my birthday dinner. Ass.
When we were first dating he would always bring me little presents. Maybe it was a few fancy stickers, maybe it was some candy. Just a little thing. I thought it was so sweet! So generous! So caring!
One day it was rainbow toe socks. Socks. With toes. Something I don’t want, would never wear, and didn’t understand. Why did he bring them? Where did they come from? Did he think I wanted them?
That’s when I realized he was just bringing garbage. He had zero thought behind whether it was something I’d want. He found stuff and then brought it to me and fed off the positive vibes of me seeming happy about it, even though it wasn’t intentionally chosen with me in mind. It was just stuff.
He turned out to fuck me over in much worse ways and I wish, in retrospect, that the rainbow toe socks had served as sufficient warning.