Guy I’m dating is Devout Catholic and I’m not. He wants me to go to mass with him every Sunday and told me that even if I were to do that he doesn’t see himself getting engaged for 2.5 – 3 years since we met last May.
He originally told me that my beliefs were ok, just to find out they weren’t and that his parents weren’t ok with them.
He also would want to raise his future kids Catholic and go to mass on vacation.
This is all really hard for me and idk what to do because him and I love each other but I also take birth control and am uncomfortable with the views of the Catholic Church about that.
And am worried about a priest finding out about it if we were to do premarital counseling in the church.
I also take birth control for hormonal acne and would want to be on birth control when I’m married because I don’t believe in NFP and don’t want 15 kids.
When he tried my church his parents accused me of trying to pull him away from the Catholic faith.
I am a non-denominational Christian to give some more details.
TLD;R: I love my boyfriend but I an afraid of us not working out in the future.
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The whole point of dating is to find out if you’re compatible with someone before moving on to marriage.
How many more red flags do you really need to see?
One of you needs to compromise or break it off. Talk to him and be on the same page of where the compromise is happening and support the other for said compromise. This is how relationships work.
You break up because you’re fundamentally incompatible.
When you say “but I also take birth control and am uncomfortable with the views of the Catholic Church about that.”, what you really mean is your fiancé does not want you to use birth control, don’t you?? You say he has different views but then you go on to say your views clash with the religion or the Church and don’t actually say how he feels about it. How does HE feel about you staying on birth control after marriage?
You might love him but what he is asking for brings up some pretty fundamental differences. He’s telling you that he is happy for you to get pregnant at any time, any number of times, over and over again. You’re worried his priest will,… well, what exactly? Doesn’t matter really, its enough that you fear your fiancé will not stop any persecution by his priest. HE will allow his parents to harass you. All these things are significant barriers to a happy marriage.