To get drunk and take all life’s stress and anger out of your wife and kids every night by coming home, yelling about the house not being clean, slamming doors, pounding on walls and wake everyone up. Then wake up and not remember any of it or very little and wonder why your kids don’t look forward to seeing you and why your wife divorced you.
Don’t resort to beating your kids as the first thing you do when you’re not happy with them, or use food as a weapon or means of discipline. These measures leave visible and invisible scars, and they’re for life. They don’t go away or are forgotten after you’re dead. Thanks, OP for letting me get this off my mind.
instead of just acting like being a provider for the household is enough, actually do things that a father is supposed to do, in example, teaching your son how to fight, talk to women, grill, play basketball, fish, how credit works, how to file your taxes, etc…
and then if or when he reaches out as an adult, navigating through his life, dont brush it off and respond with “son, i have given you the tools to succeed in life” when, in reality, all youve ever done was support the household financially, which is not to be overlooked or under appreciated, but it’s just more to life and manhood than just money.
When talking to someone face to face be aware of ur own tone. Same thing can sound very different and get different reactions with the slightest change in tone. Be self aware I guess
When you believe you are right in a disagreement (which should be every time btw), anything you say and any manner in which you say it is fully justified. So justified that any question about it at a later date should be met with aggression that is at least the level of the original behaviour in question, then ramped up every 10 seconds until full acquiescence.
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To get drunk and take all life’s stress and anger out of your wife and kids every night by coming home, yelling about the house not being clean, slamming doors, pounding on walls and wake everyone up. Then wake up and not remember any of it or very little and wonder why your kids don’t look forward to seeing you and why your wife divorced you.
Don’t resort to beating your kids as the first thing you do when you’re not happy with them, or use food as a weapon or means of discipline. These measures leave visible and invisible scars, and they’re for life. They don’t go away or are forgotten after you’re dead. Thanks, OP for letting me get this off my mind.
You can’t solve everything by punching it, or raising your voice.
instead of just acting like being a provider for the household is enough, actually do things that a father is supposed to do, in example, teaching your son how to fight, talk to women, grill, play basketball, fish, how credit works, how to file your taxes, etc…
and then if or when he reaches out as an adult, navigating through his life, dont brush it off and respond with “son, i have given you the tools to succeed in life” when, in reality, all youve ever done was support the household financially, which is not to be overlooked or under appreciated, but it’s just more to life and manhood than just money.
that might be a start?
Don’t blame your failures on others. A man has to accept that his success and failures are both equally on him to claim.
Oh god, where do I begin…
Don’t feed off of others’ pity. Hell, don’t be a pitiable person if you can help it.
Take care of yourself, especially before you even think of taking care of others. Learn to live by your own means.
Be honest, ESPECIALLY to yourself. On that note, be humble and realistic.
Don’t overindulge and don’t be tempted by the easy way out.
Don’t take out your frustrations on other people.
Own up to your mistakes.
Yeah, my dad was a lousy deadbeat piece of shit.
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When talking to someone face to face be aware of ur own tone. Same thing can sound very different and get different reactions with the slightest change in tone. Be self aware I guess
My dad don’t really show much feelings, never said i love you to me, he shows affection his own way, but yeah i kinda of miss it tbh.
I wanna be a father that say I love you to my children.
When you believe you are right in a disagreement (which should be every time btw), anything you say and any manner in which you say it is fully justified. So justified that any question about it at a later date should be met with aggression that is at least the level of the original behaviour in question, then ramped up every 10 seconds until full acquiescence.