Happened about 2 months ago
Both mid 20’s, making around 300k a year, bought our dream home last year – everything is amazing.
Found out she was pregnant 2 months, terminated within a couple days of knowing and I can’t help but still feel devastated about the decision. I wanted to keep it, she did not.
Plans are to have a family within the next couple of years, I still can’t come to terms with her decision.
I’ve been hurting every day.
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You should seek therapy. Stuff like this can end marriages.
I get it, her body her choice… but you’re in there too… you can feel how you feel and if that means reevaluating the relationship then feel no guilt in saying it too… if you guys get pregnant in 6 months or in another year is that going to change anything? I doubt it…
Jeez dude that’s rough.. I mean why would she abort it anyways? It’s not like you guys are struggling to make ends meet I mean you guys are making crazy money .. I just don’t see the need to abort a baby in this situation unless she’s unsure about raising a family with you but then if that’s the case I think you really need to have a talk with her about HOW serious she really is about you and her plans on raising a family with you because this cannot keep happening. You’re going to put your foot down today and lay down the rules it’s the only way trust me.
Damn man. I can’t imagine. It’s important to grieve properly. Go through it and not around. Sounds like you are. You’re going to be a good dad.
You guys need to talk to determine if you are on the same page regarding a timeline of your relationship. She probably didn’t want a baby now, and that’s ok.
You should listen to her reasons, she should listen to your reasons to be hurt and you guys need to work it out.
You need to find a way to not let it turn into resentment towards her, otherwise you guys are doomed.
Tough situation. Good luck to you both!
Maybe the baby aint yours
I agree with the comments saying that your wife was well within her right to abort, however she should’ve included you in this decision and I’m sorry you’re going through this.
I would definitely suggest sitting down with her and discussing not only this, but your future plans to make sure you guys are on the same page about children.
I’ve seen people on Reddit whose partner kept dragging out the possibility of kids and they ended up wasting years of their lives on someone who didn’t actually want kids when they did.
It kind of doesn’t matter what you think though. Divorce immediately. She is allowed to not be clear and make her own decision with what to do with a baby without your consent. That’s just how it is unfortunately.