I invited out my uncle and family for his birthday

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I (28M) invited my uncle out for his birthday dinner by telling him over a call. Told my cousin that I made a reservation (for all us) and also told her to inform her mom (uncle’s wife) and this is how usually I invite them out. However, I reminded my cousin to inform her mom but she was busy and yet to tell. I visited them 2 days ago and I didn’t inform her mom because got carried away/slipped out of my mind and was not intentional. But yesterday she got to know from my uncle about the invitation and took it personal becaus I didn’t inform her and, she doesn’t want to join. I have invited in the past the same exact way and there wasn’t an issue. I called and left her a text apologising it was not intentional, she has seen but no response. I told this to my cousin and she said this is how I usually invite them, nothing new. Also my uncle called me an idiot for not informing his wife. I just feel bad/sad/hurt and confused that I have made a mistake. Just want some opinions on this, what do you guys think?

Comments

  1. clotterycumpy Avatar

    You made a mistake, but it wasn’t intentional. Apologizing was the right move. It might not be about the invite, but feeling left out.

    Keep the communication open, and hopefully, things will smooth over.

  2. SurlyTurtles Avatar

    You made a mistake not a huge mistake but you made a mistake. Don’t dwell on it. It’s OK everyone makes mistakes. Everyone. Next time just call each person individually or shoot them a text inviting them out.