I don’t know any couple who has cohabited for 20+ years and managed to maintain passion. Esther Perel explains this challenge quite well in her book Mating in Captivity. Perhaps we need to stop fooling ourselves about the fact that we can be roommates and lovers with the same person 24/7.
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In this economy??
I would absolutely hate that. Take my upvote, this is truly unpopular on many levels.
At least separate rooms.
Sir this is a Wendy’s
Chastity belts are the way.
He is not just my lover but also my best friend. I’m not giving up going to sleep next to him, waking up next to him and eating my meals with him.
In my opinion stresses of life and porn are actual relationship killers.
Been living together with my gf for over a year now after 3 relationships where I would only see my gfs on weekends. I can safely state that… it depends and that each have pros and cons! I know this opinion will break the internet but I had to get it out of my chest.
You can do that then? I personally like living with my partner, and wouldn’t trust anyone else to be a good roommate
My poor kids. They’ll be damn to want to have both their parents at all time in the house.
Separate rooma to sleep if you have the luxury to buy a big enough home, ok.
But different house, nan.
If you do not have kids, maybe if you still are rich.
😅
Another day, another unpopular opinion getting downvoted on the unpopular opinion sub
You don’t know many people that cohabited for 20+ years, have you?
This doesn’t sound like an unpopular opinion, just a very odd one.
Who the fuck can afford that
I don’t want any eroticism in my relationship so I’m all fine with potentially living with my partner
Think my young children would be confused and have a lot of questions!
Truly and unpopular opinion indeed, have an upvote!
lol i think you need to figure out your own relationships before telling others….
You don’t know us or many of our friends. 21 years, and it keeps getting better. Sex every day, sometimes more. We’re still in the honeymoon phase.
If there’s no kids I don’t see why not
What if kids are involved? Just go between houses like children of divorce do?
I think you just don’t know many long term couples
On the other hand, do you know any couple who has been together for 20+ years and do not cohabitate? I also read Mating in Captivity and while this issue is discussed in depth, I don’t remember her suggesting to live separately as a solution. This is just a challenge we need to take on in committed relationships.
Upvoted.
I think you just don’t know many long term couples
I think you are within your rights to do whatever you want in your own relationships but I don’t think you opinion is wanted or needed in other peoples. Other people’s relationships are not your business. Mind your business.
Dude, I get to have a sleepover with my best friend every night for the rest of my life. That’s fantastic! We did a LOTR marathon on Saturday, ordered pizza and snuggled on the couch with two awesome cats. Then we spent Sunday making bread. I wouldn’t trade that kind of time together for anything.
Dude, I get to have a sleepover with my best friend every night for the rest of my life. That’s fantastic! We did a LOTR marathon on Saturday, ordered pizza and snuggled on the couch with two awesome cats. Then we spent Sunday making bread. I wouldn’t trade that kind of time together for anything.
I’ll live on the couch with the dog on his bed and she can live in the bed
My wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms. 10/10, would recommend (for all kinds of reasons, including yours).
I guess if you wanna coast in the dating lifestyle… I for one thrive on random physical affection love bombing
This just reinforces the fact that too many incompatible people get in relationships/marriage and force connections. Have you never been around someone you’re really compatible with? You never want to leave
So, you’re saying this what you need in your relationship to make it work?
Nah, I like her, think I’ll keep her around.
Try separate bedrooms 😁
Been with my husband 11 years and we still have passion. Yeah, everything is more chilled and content, but there isn’t anything wrong with that. Problems only arise if you don’t communicate, or let each other have your own hobbies and time.
Here’s my unpopular opinion: if your relationship loses its zing after you move in together, you weren’t right for each other.
Maybe it’s childish to think that you can and should feel the same passion at 50 that you did at 20.
Live separately? No, but I definitely advocate that all couples should still have their our rooms when living together. Even if they end up sleeping in each other’s beds more often than not, it still gives them their own space to go to when they need alone time or if sleeping in the same bed is causing issues.
For example; one of you is sick. The healthy partner can sleep in their own bedroom instead of sleeping on the couch or next to their partner’s germs where they risk getting sick themselves.
Snoring is another one.
In my case it’s allergies. I’m constantly blowing my nose and when I had a girlfriend it made sleeping the same bed difficult for her because of the noise even though I enjoyed cuddling.
It really depends on the couple, but I’d still recommend it as a general rule.
No way dude. I start to miss my wife after like 6 hours apart.
lmao yes everyone should follow this advice because you can’t maintain your own relationships 🙄
I’ve been with my wife for 20 years and I wouldn’t change a thing. I get to hang out with my best friend every day, sleep together every night and wake up together every morning. Why would I give that up exactly?
I have heard the idea that couples might actually be best with separate bedrooms
So is he come over at 2am to kill the spider?
This is what this sub is for lmao. I hope that works for you man but that would destroy my relationship and my bank account. I love living with my partner, better than any roommate I’ve ever had.
Me and my wife live in separate apartments within the same building.