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Avoid debt at all costs. It can grow to a level where it takes most of your paycheck and you are a slave to it. People convince themselves they can just pay it off, but expensive things in life keep happening and then you have to borrow more.
Life doesn’t always follow the dream scenario you imagine when you’re younger. Bills, responsibilities, and unexpected problems come up, and you can’t always control everything.
Things that you autopiloted are opt-in and take effort, which describes everything below.
Not sleeping still works but has a higher cost. Same for drinking.
Work friends are not like school friends – you have to go out and make friends after school is over.
Your boss doesn’t necessarily care about your success. There is no meritocracy. Teachers were all yelled at to make sure you succeed. Your boss isn’t. Panicking at your professor is not like panicking at your boss.
People are intolerant of pre-adult complaints. No one working 8-10 hours for the last 20 years wants to hear how hard a 4-6 hour, part-time job is.
Falling in love is the cheat code. Staying in love is hard mode. Two people need to decide together to tend a huge garden, which will die if either one of them stops tending it.
Fitness and health require much more effort to keep at whatever minimum you prefer. Your metabolism slows, so anything you liked to eat you will be able to eat progressively less of.
Considering this list, determination and discipline are really best cultivated as early as possible. Learn to enjoy trying difficult things. It will pay off when you learn what really matters to you.
Your parents will die wetger you like it not.
You will loose friends whether you like or not.
The tax man is always after you wetger you like or not.
At some point you start going to more funerals then weddings. Make peace with this.
At some point you will face a health crisis or emergency. One day you or someone you love will be fine, the next they will not.
As an adult, you only have yourself to count on.
You’re going to experience intense adversity, tragedies, and hardships. I haven’t met many people who haven’t gone through some severe tragedies and I’ve had a slew myself and I’m not even 30. Life doesn’t stop when things happen too, you still have to work, pay bills, people rely on you.
People really focusing on their 20’s onwards but from someone who turned 18 last year.
The weight of responsibilities and just living become much Higher. realising youre not gonna have the safety net of your parents to be making you dinner, doing laundry, paying for utilities.
It is better now, while still a teenager to really hone and master chores, get into the routine of it now. so in 5-10 years time your not scrambling to find a dish because you couldnt be assed to clean any yesterday after dinner.
You have to be self reliant to look after yourself/enviroment
The decisions you make almost always have impacts and how you interpret them has impacts. You need to learn to move on from failures rather quickly. You won’t fully realize how precious many moments are until they’re gone.
Life generally doesn’t get easier (more money/more complications). And you don’t always get “stronger” from just having lived experience. Sometimes those hard experience have complications that stay with you. The whole “whatever doesn’t kill you” isn’t always true. Sometimes whatever doesn’t kill just makes you do it again… which can be stupid.
The worst thing I’ve learned is sometimes you work hard, follow your dreams, and achieve them only to realize the stuff you wanted all along leaves you unhappy.
Your metabolism and joints will crap out on you almost immediately after you turn 30, and you will have to mindfully take care of them every day forever or else continually break down
It’s hard. There is stress, bad bosses, shitty days at work, assholes who are more successful because they are assholes, arguments with your significant other, family drama, etc. There will be great days but there will also be absolute shit days. Sometimes you gotta search for the silver lining.
Only the most pessimistic and down person alive approaches objective reality of the horror that is life. Anything better than that is an illusion.
Understand that all good things are an illusion, wrap yourself in it, fuel it, encourage it and you will be happy. Just force yourself to believe that everything is great! It is actually that simple.
Life is an illusion, make it a nice one even in the darkest of times!
As a teen if you make a mistake you are forgiven but as an adult if you make the same mistake people are way more hostile towards you because they instantly assume you are immune to making mistakes as soon as you are an adult.
You’re gonna have to learn some shit the hard way, don’t beat yourself up about it. Also just cause it didn’t work out doesn’t mean you were wrong to pursue it in the first place.
If you didn’t lock in healthy habits before, establishing them later is difficult, and you can’t get back the time you wasted health-wise. I regret drinking, smoking, and not exercising in my 20s, I didn’t understand until later I can only mitigate the damage I did, not fully reverse it. I didn’t really get serious about my health until my 40s and I realized how much being unhealthy sucks. You can absorb the damage in your 20s without noticing, but it catches up to you later. Eat right, exercise, save for retirement, and go to therapy now, future you will thank you for it.
Thomas Wolfe said you can’t go home again. It’s nostalgia, it’s good remembering good times but you can’t catch lightning in a bottle. It’s today that counts, creating a memory for tomorrow. We are fascinating creatures. Pursue your dreams not your memories. Memory is jaded we gloss over the bad for the highlighted good.
You will eventually realize how plaguing social media is for your health if you haven’t already, and you may resent it. As children of the internet, this is our burden. Reconnect with nature. Take everything you read & that is said to you with a grain of salt. Think in less absolutes, less black & white.
That adults are Just Kids with mire experience and less Options. “Growing Up” is No guarantee for wisdom. You Just Had more opportunities and time to Level Up, but the majority does not or not as much ad one might think.
Let them being naive, let them dream of the impossible, let them just build memories to look back when everything fall apart. I’m not saying to keep them blindsided but to don’t come with the whole “wait until you’re an adult, everything sucks” speech cause that it’s like an ice bucket over people that still have faith, hope and dreams.
Life will destroy it all by itself, we don’t need to help.
If you don’t take care of your body in your 20s (eat healthy, exercise, go to the dentist, etc), it will wreck you in your 30s and you’ll have to put way more effort into trying to fix the damage. It’s so fun to be on your own for the first time and eat whatever you want, but seriously, don’t. I gained about 100 pounds in the last 15 years and am finally working on losing it (down 33 so far!). It would have been so much easier to just eat normal-sized, healthier meals then than all the cutting back I’m having to do now.
Besides the ultra-sad, “Everyone you love eventually dies,” On the day to day, Life is a constant cycle of arguing with your partner about what to eat with a never-ending background of laundry piles and chores awaiting you.
one day you’ll get together with your crew…pass around that blunt…and it’ll be the last time the circle is ever that size, and you’ll have no idea. enjoy every rotation you can with those fellas.
and also, everything will pass and feel silly eventually. that thing you’re so overwhelmed by and thing is everything in the world, it’s not. and it really doesn’t even matter right now as much as you think…and those feelings will hold you back from doing things you truly want and should do – and the regret you’re left with will matter a lot more.
Your body will break down a lot sooner than you think. All the shit you put your body through when you were younger catches up to you, even if it never hurt before. It only took a few years for my all-state, bulletproof knees and back to start seriously hurting. Exercise is no longer an indulgence, but rather a necessity, to keep me mobile.
Save early and often. Im not advocating saving ALL of your money, but the faster you can start to sock some away, the faster it will start growing (once the orange man moves along).
Buying a new car is about the worst financial decision you can make. Its boring, but try to hold on to your cars as long as you can.
My dad always says “It doesn’t get better. You just get better at dealing with it.”
It’s pretty harsh, but I do agree.
But it’s important to find importance in the beauty of the little things. Sometimes the cards will not be in your favor, but they will be again in the future.
When you are a kid a holiday is a day off school. Talking your parents into letting you stay home because you ‘don’t feel good’ is a day off school. Sometimes you can avoid tests or extend deadlines by taking a day off school.
When you are an adult, a holiday or even taking a sick day often means you don’t get paid for that day. Dodging responsibilities can get you fired. Both of these impact your ability to do fun things like eat.
As an employer I cannot tell you how many young people we’ve terminated because they simply don’t show up.
When they have children they will never stop worrying about them….that if they don’t call consistently whenever they do call they will think something is wrong…owning a house is slightly overrated because of property taxes…the cost of groceries are expensive. Pay rate and cost of living will never be equal.
Most of us destroy our own mentality by consistently refusing to live our lives the way we want luckily I’m autistic so the child like whimsy never left me but I feel for other adults who have lost that spark they had when children the world seems so dull and grey comparatively to sooooooo many ppl its sad
good things don’t always happen to good people but no matter what – never stop being a good person because truth prevails and good people always win in the end
Bills don’t take breaks. Even when you’re sick, exhausted, or going through something—rent, insurance, and everything else still expect to be paid on time.
Things are never over. You’re never done with the dishes, cleaning, laundry, trash. Once those chores are done you gotta do them again, and again, and again, and again.
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You will lose most of your friends.
Avoid debt at all costs. It can grow to a level where it takes most of your paycheck and you are a slave to it. People convince themselves they can just pay it off, but expensive things in life keep happening and then you have to borrow more.
It’s okay to drop some friendships-not that you hate them but sometimes your dreams and aspirations may not be aligned with them.Which is okay
Odds are that your long-term relationship is NOT going to work out.
So make sure that you’ll be fine (financially, emotionally) if/when it ends.
Life doesn’t always follow the dream scenario you imagine when you’re younger. Bills, responsibilities, and unexpected problems come up, and you can’t always control everything.
It ain’t easy.
Things that you autopiloted are opt-in and take effort, which describes everything below.
Not sleeping still works but has a higher cost. Same for drinking.
Work friends are not like school friends – you have to go out and make friends after school is over.
Your boss doesn’t necessarily care about your success. There is no meritocracy. Teachers were all yelled at to make sure you succeed. Your boss isn’t. Panicking at your professor is not like panicking at your boss.
People are intolerant of pre-adult complaints. No one working 8-10 hours for the last 20 years wants to hear how hard a 4-6 hour, part-time job is.
Falling in love is the cheat code. Staying in love is hard mode. Two people need to decide together to tend a huge garden, which will die if either one of them stops tending it.
Fitness and health require much more effort to keep at whatever minimum you prefer. Your metabolism slows, so anything you liked to eat you will be able to eat progressively less of.
Considering this list, determination and discipline are really best cultivated as early as possible. Learn to enjoy trying difficult things. It will pay off when you learn what really matters to you.
Rent’s owed every month.
Here’s a general list:
-You may lose friends due to schedules, different life paths, realizing that they’ve never really been your friends, etc.
-You may end up unhappy in a job that’s not related to your degree.
-You may go into crippling debt. (Learn financial basics people)!
-You may have a difficult time getting pregnant.
-You may not be able to afford a house
I’m so curious about questions like these…
Are people trying to create a guidebook to life?
“Instead of experiencing it for yourself, here’s a book that will tell you how to navigate through life”.
EDIT: I wasn’t being sarcastic, it was actually more of a “ward off & protect you” kinda way. Like a parent wants to protect their child…
Life is not a beer commercial.
Your parents will die wetger you like it not.
You will loose friends whether you like or not.
The tax man is always after you wetger you like or not.
At some point you start going to more funerals then weddings. Make peace with this.
At some point you will face a health crisis or emergency. One day you or someone you love will be fine, the next they will not.
As an adult, you only have yourself to count on.
You’re going to experience intense adversity, tragedies, and hardships. I haven’t met many people who haven’t gone through some severe tragedies and I’ve had a slew myself and I’m not even 30. Life doesn’t stop when things happen too, you still have to work, pay bills, people rely on you.
People really focusing on their 20’s onwards but from someone who turned 18 last year.
The weight of responsibilities and just living become much Higher. realising youre not gonna have the safety net of your parents to be making you dinner, doing laundry, paying for utilities.
It is better now, while still a teenager to really hone and master chores, get into the routine of it now. so in 5-10 years time your not scrambling to find a dish because you couldnt be assed to clean any yesterday after dinner.
You have to be self reliant to look after yourself/enviroment
You’re mostly going to be on your own.
You really dont matter, you wont leave a mark on the world other than your immediate family and friends, and you die
The decisions you make almost always have impacts and how you interpret them has impacts. You need to learn to move on from failures rather quickly. You won’t fully realize how precious many moments are until they’re gone.
Life generally doesn’t get easier (more money/more complications). And you don’t always get “stronger” from just having lived experience. Sometimes those hard experience have complications that stay with you. The whole “whatever doesn’t kill you” isn’t always true. Sometimes whatever doesn’t kill just makes you do it again… which can be stupid.
The worst thing I’ve learned is sometimes you work hard, follow your dreams, and achieve them only to realize the stuff you wanted all along leaves you unhappy.
Have a great Monday!
Cherish every MOMENT
It gets worse. In all kinds of ways.
Your metabolism and joints will crap out on you almost immediately after you turn 30, and you will have to mindfully take care of them every day forever or else continually break down
It’s hard. There is stress, bad bosses, shitty days at work, assholes who are more successful because they are assholes, arguments with your significant other, family drama, etc. There will be great days but there will also be absolute shit days. Sometimes you gotta search for the silver lining.
Only the most pessimistic and down person alive approaches objective reality of the horror that is life. Anything better than that is an illusion.
Understand that all good things are an illusion, wrap yourself in it, fuel it, encourage it and you will be happy. Just force yourself to believe that everything is great! It is actually that simple.
Life is an illusion, make it a nice one even in the darkest of times!
Your life isn’t really your own.
You have to decide “what’s for dinner” every day. For the rest of your life.
You’re parents will be gone.
As a teen if you make a mistake you are forgiven but as an adult if you make the same mistake people are way more hostile towards you because they instantly assume you are immune to making mistakes as soon as you are an adult.
Nobody is coming to save you. You’re on your own out there. Good luck.
You’re gonna have to learn some shit the hard way, don’t beat yourself up about it. Also just cause it didn’t work out doesn’t mean you were wrong to pursue it in the first place.
We still have no idea what we are doing most of the time.
We don’t know what’s going on either.
That feeling when you realize being ‘grown’ is mostly just paying bills and figuring out dinner every night.
Life gets harder and more unaffordable by the day.
it’s gonna be a lonely life. your childhood friends, high school friends will be gone.
Find a way to deal with stress or it will do you in.
The only person who you have any control over is you.
If you didn’t lock in healthy habits before, establishing them later is difficult, and you can’t get back the time you wasted health-wise. I regret drinking, smoking, and not exercising in my 20s, I didn’t understand until later I can only mitigate the damage I did, not fully reverse it. I didn’t really get serious about my health until my 40s and I realized how much being unhealthy sucks. You can absorb the damage in your 20s without noticing, but it catches up to you later. Eat right, exercise, save for retirement, and go to therapy now, future you will thank you for it.
Mattress shopping will make you want to eat glass and most of the reviews online are meaningless because the author has a different body type
Thomas Wolfe said you can’t go home again. It’s nostalgia, it’s good remembering good times but you can’t catch lightning in a bottle. It’s today that counts, creating a memory for tomorrow. We are fascinating creatures. Pursue your dreams not your memories. Memory is jaded we gloss over the bad for the highlighted good.
You will eventually realize how plaguing social media is for your health if you haven’t already, and you may resent it. As children of the internet, this is our burden. Reconnect with nature. Take everything you read & that is said to you with a grain of salt. Think in less absolutes, less black & white.
That adults are Just Kids with mire experience and less Options. “Growing Up” is No guarantee for wisdom. You Just Had more opportunities and time to Level Up, but the majority does not or not as much ad one might think.
It gets very lonely the older you get. You kind of learn to deal with it
I’m in a point in life where my answer is “None”.
Let them being naive, let them dream of the impossible, let them just build memories to look back when everything fall apart. I’m not saying to keep them blindsided but to don’t come with the whole “wait until you’re an adult, everything sucks” speech cause that it’s like an ice bucket over people that still have faith, hope and dreams.
Life will destroy it all by itself, we don’t need to help.
If you don’t take care of your body in your 20s (eat healthy, exercise, go to the dentist, etc), it will wreck you in your 30s and you’ll have to put way more effort into trying to fix the damage. It’s so fun to be on your own for the first time and eat whatever you want, but seriously, don’t. I gained about 100 pounds in the last 15 years and am finally working on losing it (down 33 so far!). It would have been so much easier to just eat normal-sized, healthier meals then than all the cutting back I’m having to do now.
Besides the ultra-sad, “Everyone you love eventually dies,” On the day to day, Life is a constant cycle of arguing with your partner about what to eat with a never-ending background of laundry piles and chores awaiting you.
When you make a mistake… You risk your family, your freedom, your job, and even your ability to retire.
Sometimes it’s as minor as throwing the wrong thing in the trash, or annoying the wrong neighbor.
one day you’ll get together with your crew…pass around that blunt…and it’ll be the last time the circle is ever that size, and you’ll have no idea. enjoy every rotation you can with those fellas.
and also, everything will pass and feel silly eventually. that thing you’re so overwhelmed by and thing is everything in the world, it’s not. and it really doesn’t even matter right now as much as you think…and those feelings will hold you back from doing things you truly want and should do – and the regret you’re left with will matter a lot more.
It’s often very boring
Adulting is hard but the sooner you start the easier it is.
If you have kids or dogs, you will be dealing with literal shit all the time.
Like, my kid is 12 and he clogs the toilet. He’s been out of diapers a decade, I still deal with his shit all the time.
You cannot do whatever you want whenever you want. You do what you can afford when you can afford it.
You can’t change the cards you’re dealt — make the best of what you have.
Many, many people are after your money, sellable info and personal belongings. If you’re a woman they’re after something else too.
Looking at people you’ve known your whole life age.
Like watching your mother become your grandmother. And knowing the next evolution.
Your body will break down a lot sooner than you think. All the shit you put your body through when you were younger catches up to you, even if it never hurt before. It only took a few years for my all-state, bulletproof knees and back to start seriously hurting. Exercise is no longer an indulgence, but rather a necessity, to keep me mobile.
You won’t have the ability to do everything, so choose wisely in what you want to put your energy in.
Get ready for agony
How easy it is to fuck it all up
Save early and often. Im not advocating saving ALL of your money, but the faster you can start to sock some away, the faster it will start growing (once the orange man moves along).
Buying a new car is about the worst financial decision you can make. Its boring, but try to hold on to your cars as long as you can.
You’ll learn that it’s better to be alone than to be disrespected
Marriage, in and of itself, doesn’t mean anything. Don’t make it a life goal. If you get there, great, but don’t put it on a checklist.
Everhthing gets worse. Obligations, responsibilities, costs, pain…it all just piles on little bu little until you can no longer move.
My dad always says “It doesn’t get better. You just get better at dealing with it.”
It’s pretty harsh, but I do agree.
But it’s important to find importance in the beauty of the little things. Sometimes the cards will not be in your favor, but they will be again in the future.
If you want to have food and shelter you need a job even if you’d rather not.
gestures broadly
You may not be as comfortable or well off as you think you will.
And also that most things are not about you
Not so much sad as a reality that needs to be addressed;
When you move out of your parents’ house, you will need to parent yourself. Start being responsible for chores now so you don’t get swamped later
You are going to meet the worst people you’ve ever met in your entire life and there’s not going to be a disclaimer.
You’ll lose a lot of your friends but the ones you keep will be life long pals of yours
You will face medical problems one day. It will probably be expensive. Take care of your spine as much as you can.
When you are a kid a holiday is a day off school. Talking your parents into letting you stay home because you ‘don’t feel good’ is a day off school. Sometimes you can avoid tests or extend deadlines by taking a day off school.
When you are an adult, a holiday or even taking a sick day often means you don’t get paid for that day. Dodging responsibilities can get you fired. Both of these impact your ability to do fun things like eat.
As an employer I cannot tell you how many young people we’ve terminated because they simply don’t show up.
When they have children they will never stop worrying about them….that if they don’t call consistently whenever they do call they will think something is wrong…owning a house is slightly overrated because of property taxes…the cost of groceries are expensive. Pay rate and cost of living will never be equal.
Most of us destroy our own mentality by consistently refusing to live our lives the way we want luckily I’m autistic so the child like whimsy never left me but I feel for other adults who have lost that spark they had when children the world seems so dull and grey comparatively to sooooooo many ppl its sad
It never ends, until it does.
Most people don’t grow out of bad behaviors.
The passage of time can be overwhelming and it goes by faster and faster the older you get
No one cares
good things don’t always happen to good people but no matter what – never stop being a good person because truth prevails and good people always win in the end
Life is not fair
Bills don’t take breaks. Even when you’re sick, exhausted, or going through something—rent, insurance, and everything else still expect to be paid on time.
Things are never over. You’re never done with the dishes, cleaning, laundry, trash. Once those chores are done you gotta do them again, and again, and again, and again.
Capitalism won’t give your life meaning
Everyone judges you. Especially the ones that say “ I don’t judge” yes you do. Along with those judgements comes the mediocrity.
Workplaces still have the same cliques as high school did
Adult don’t know everything. Adults lie. Adults are just as muddled about morals and ethnic as kids. There you go.
You can never get back time.
Sometimes you don’t get second chances to fix your mistakes, especially the big ones.
Absolutely no one cares how you end up. This is both a good thing and a bad thing depending on how it drives you.