I’m 22M and I’m dating with 32F . We’re working together . The beginning our relationship we had 4-5 times sex a week . But now after a year she started today I’m tired , or something else . Totally nowadays we have sex 1 time a week . I’m asked to her . If something happened tell me . she said she really wants me . What i should to do in this situation?
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4-5x a week? Ain’t nobody got time for that. Once a week is fairly normal (average is 54x per year). Maybe your libidos are misaligned or maybe you are simply at different stages of life. I literally can’t even imagine having time for daily sex when I was in my 30s. I was very busy in my career, and we also had two young kids.
When she was your age, you were 12, just putting that out there.
It’s possible after the new relationship energy, she’s just not all that excited about you anymore.
Weekly is not bad, though if it’s 20% of what you’re used to, I can see why you’re concerned.
A long term relationship periods of higher and lower activity for sure. I’ve been with my partner 40 years, we are almost weekly at this point, but the quality and excitement has gone down over the years. Now it’s just a comfortable connection. That said, when we were your age we could go through a 12 pack of condoms in a weekend and rush giggling out to the drug store to restock.
You might be around each other too much. Try missing each other.
Never a bad idea to go to counseling to learn how to communicate better.
What do you think you should do in this situation? I mean, if she won’t have sex with you more than once a week are you willing to accept that or not?
She’s tired of you. You’re probably not too exciting anymore. She’s found someone else to give her a poke in the whiskers. You should just go back to watching porn and jacking off…
The age difference is a problem when it comes to libido. You’re at the peak of your sexual drive while she is not. Initially, the excitement of a new relationship can make a woman over 30 very horny but eventually, for most women at that age, there comes a slow down at some point. She’s hit hers. Accept that she’s telling you the truth.
She uses sex as a tool for manipulation. Find someone else and stop contact.
It’s called being an adult women with responsibilities, we aren’t as free with our time an energy. I have the same age difference with my mate. I adore him but my body isn’t up to sex that often.
You may not be quit ready for an adult relationship like this and that’s ok. Sex waxes and wanes during adult relationships.
Ah yes the honey moon stage comes to an end
Americans in their 20s have sex about 80 times per year, approximately once every four to five days. That number drops to 20 times per year for those in their 60s.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/psymon-says/202303/how-often-do-couples-really-have-sex
Sex 4-5 times per week made you outliers. Once per week is much closer to average.
She might be convinced to go a little over once per week, but it sounds like she’s got a fairly average libido. Decide whether you want to stay with her and accept average, or search for a high libido woman. Those are your options. Be a decent man, and don’t cheat to get extra sex.
After a year, the passion tends to die down, and more routine develops. The honeymoon is over. There could be sex several times a week. Several times a month or just once a week or any combination depending on the stresses of the week, life, and just general happiness with how life is currently feeling.
If you are with her because you expect sex 4-5 times a week, get used to disappointment. If your relationship is based on a hyperactive sex life, it’s not one built to last anyway.
You’re really young, and sex is all you really think about. You might have been a novelty for her. She has a thousand things on her mind.
As a 30 something woman, I could never date someone that much younger than me. Like bro, she was 20 when you were 10. It give me the ick personally
Lust catapulted your sex life in the beginning. Now, you’re just regular.
Find something else to light a match under it or you’ll be a young fling before long.