I’m about a year out from graduating from my undergrad, and I keep hearing people talk about life after college like it’s awful. I look at my parents’ experiences with life, and they absolutely ARE miserable. Is that just how life is?
My life before college was really not good (I’ve been in treatment for PTSD for two years now). Is adult life somehow worse than childhood? I can’t even imagine life being worse, but I’m not sure if that’s just because I’ve been through some stuff.
Is it even possible for life to be reasonably okay if everything is just supposed to go downhill from here?
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life for most people in the west life is only awful because they think it is. sure we go through hard times and things can be tougher than we want them to be, but ultimately we live good lives filled with hard moments. always been that way always will be.
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I like adult life. Sometimes it’s hard. It’s often scary. But there’s a lot of joy and freedom too.
Just take it one step at a time. It will all be okay 🙂
Nah, adulthood is GREAT. No one ever yells at me about the electric, water, gas, or internet bill; they just get paid. No one gets mad at me for eating all the groceries or if the groceries go bad; we buy more and throw out what we didn’t need.
I can play all the video games and no one yells at me. I can watch TV if I want to. I can afford all the records and clothes and toys for me and my kiddo. It’s magical.
Adulting is making sure the bills get paid and you don’t go mad. That’s it.
Life’s what you make it. I truly believe that.
Right now, everything is very expensive. Employers know they have the upper hand and they aren’t treating their employees very well.
But it’s not all downhill.
I agree that life is what you make it. Work hard. Save. Don’t have kids yet- or all at if you don’t want them. Stay fit and healthy. Know your worth and find a good job.
You’ll be happy.
Has been for me.
Childhood was miserable, adult life is worse.
Just as miserable, but more responsibilities.
I’m 33 and have childhood PTSD too, but for me adult life is leagues better than childhood was. The fact that you’re in therapy is really great, IMO. It can be a good place to explore what would make you happy or what changes you can make in your life to find more fulfillment or joy. The flipside of that is, doing trauma therapy can really be a drag sometimes, but in my experience it really pays off in the long-run.
About to graduate as well and feeling similarly. Panicking I made the wrong decision on my career since I switched halfway through college. I try to remind myself that It’s just thr start of my life and now I can actually have the money to go out and pursue my interests like hunting, airsoft, and tabletop wargames. I now get to engage with more people who have incredible life experiences beyond what I previously had. And I don’t have to worry about 500 little assignments. When I leave work I’ll be done with work and not have hours of busy work to do at home.
You are not your past. And you’re not your parents. Spend some time thinking about what brings you joy whether it’s been out in nature or music or hanging out with friends. And do more of it! Yes, it can be hard, but it’s also incredibly rewarding and fun. Just also surround yourself with people who are optimistic and supportive and positive.