I’ve been feeling like my friends and I are no longer aligning. I don’t understand why but I am told to not overstay my welcome by those who give me advice. The most prominent issue is if I don’t reach out these people don’t either. And some of my online friends say that’s fine, you don’t have to talk to someone for months and you’re still friends. I have a few acquaintances like this. But that’s not what I mean here’- I mean friends I was close with but something happened. And I keep asking why they’re so distant. To no avail.
I have a friend who just ignores my texts or doesn’t reply/ she’s always talking about her other friends or her online friends and when we do meet up it’s honestly seeming like she’s just bored and needs to vent about her fiancé and any friend problems. She also tells me about my personality etc. Which makes me worry I should find new friends anyway.
The second friend her and I were really close and she’s nice when we interact, but we haven’t met up in like a year. I keep running into her too and she’s like omg let’s hang out. No one makes the plan. This is a problem with my best friend and I too (different friend)
I used to be on a really good communication pattern with everyone. But where I stayed the same they changed. I don’t wanna drag it but what’s going on? Why do I care so much when they couldn’t care less
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These people aren’t your friends.
People get preoccupied and busy. Sometimes, people also outgrow each other. It’s common for friendships to fade so that you can make new and better fitting ones.