I have always found myself around people who are extremely jealous of me.
In the past I was really good friends with a girl then a guy got jealous and destroyed my reputation in front of her and others and spoiled our friendship
Now at my workplace there are people who are so jealous of me that they literally shake in my presence and can’t stand me. They spread rumours and also try to control me. I am always very polite and tactful in my behaviour but when I’m around these people get extremely uncomfortable and sometimes even attack me.
The jealousy stems from simple things like the people I speak with or the work I do or even th way I carry myself. It’s like people are always trying to shut me up. This sometimes interferes with my self confidence and also spoils my reputation in front of others because of the lies and rumours these people spread. What should I do?
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What leads you to believe that people’s dislike of you stems from jealousy?
I’ve never heard of someone shaking with jealousy. I don’t know what’s going on but perhaps it’s not jealousy they’re feeling/displaying. Perhaps it’s another emotion & you’re misreading it.
They’re like a pack of wolves, who can smell fear a mile away. If they sense from you that there’s a price to pay for their cruelty, they won’t do it. In other words, get angry, don’t care what they think or if they like you. Put them in their place in a calm way, they’ll catch on after awhile.
This is a very strange situation. I’m not sure that I understand what is happening since I’ve never encountered anything like this. Can you elaborate – maybe give some examples? Like how did this guy destroy your reputation? Surely your friend knows you and knows what you are about. What did this guy do or say that convinced your friend not to be friends with you?
This doesn’t sound like jealousy at all. There’s a lot more to this story than your telling us.
I suspect you might be difficult to work with and what you’re seeing is people trying to control their frustration.
“They’re just jealous” is an immature reaction, leading me to wonder if you are immature in general.
And all I have is your posting history to go by to see if you’re a considerate person and you don’t respond to comments people take the time to make.
So I suspect you might actually have a distorted view of what is going on around you.