Like how do I stop giving a fuck about everything? I have been at my job three weeks (it is a warehouse job where I am asked to do the work of several people with little help) and I fucking hate it but the job market sucks right now. Also, I just feel very annoyed with society and the way people treat me (I am nice to people and they see me as a pushover and try to fuck with me).
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Instead of thinking how much your job sucks, think about how grateful you are to have one. There must be a vibe you are sending out that makes people think you are a pushover. Don’t let them think that. Carry yourself with confidence. That often will change a lot of things.
Try meditating and learning to be in the present moment
I don’t think your solution is to “stop giving a fuck about everything”. You gotta choose where you fucks go, and be picky.
As far as the warehouse job. It is what it is. Do what you can and go home. Nothing more,nothing less. Don’t let them make you mad. Just sharpen ur resume and keep applying other places.
As far as people walking all over you. It seems like you may have an issue expressing your feelings to others in real-time. Learn to set healthy boundaries for how you interact with others, and let them know when those boundaries are violated. Don’t wait and bottle it up. That’s when you’ll feel like people are walking all over you.
I can confidently tell you all this,because I am so guilty of both! It’s always easier said than done!
The less I chase it the happier I tend to be, I don’t expect things to go good or bad, but I don’t take any of it for granted.
I’m not particularly happy right now, but I’m also not trying to make it better. I just ride it out and like I said, I don’t set expectations for my emotions
Honestly, try to just think more positive thoughts. It’s been shown to actually change your brain chemistry.
Don’t think about stuff like how much you fucking hate your job, but focus on the positive aspects of it (at least you’ve got a job). You’ve also got some coworkers I assume who you can vent to and banter with, without turning the conversation into a woe-is-us kind of conversation.
Same with how you interact with other people. You yourself are stressed and anxious about how things are going currently, so it’s understandable people might be a bit more on edge in general. Don’t take things personally and let some random rude person ruin your day.
Its as simple as it looks. Our vibrations affect our enviroment. Try taking it one step at a time, writing positive message to yourself in the morning, planting a positive thought in your head at night, etc. Simply train your mind to be happy.
It’s very hard to change your thought habits. Pretty much the most important thing you can do is to notice that you want them to change, which you have done already, so there’s no advice to give.
From now on every time you “think wrong” you would notice you think wrong, and when you think right, you would notice it too, and that usually makes you change over time. This would happen even if i didn’t tell you.
I swear I wasn’t looking… but you knew exactly what you were doing.
Start valuing your time and energy by saying no to unreasonable demands and seeking environments where your kindness isn’t mistaken for weakness.