You should always have a life outside of a relationship. That’s what’s healthy. If you’re relying on your partner for 100% of your entertainment and emotional needs, that’s a problem. (No judgment, a lot of people do it without realizing it).
Hobbies, clubs, meet-ups, etc. Social media is actually a good way to join groups and meet people. What do you like? Reading? Art? Exercise? Look up groups on fb, reddit, or insta and go to meet-ups. It won’t happen overnight, but it’s a way to get out and meet people.
Go to conventions, city events, farmer markets, craft fairs, concerts, etc.
Volunteer. If you’re religious, look through your church or other local groups. If not, find local organizations that need help. Even animal shelters!
There is also nothing wrong with going out alone. Take yourself out on date night. Go to a bar, eat at a new restaurant, sit in a park. You don’t have to talk to anyone, but being out and about helps more than you think.
Again, this won’t happen over night, you have to work at it and really self motivate. It’s easy to stay home and hermit. It’s hard to go out and do new things. Everyone struggles with this in adulthood. So don’t feel like you’re the odd man out.
I deep dived into my own fantasy world. I used Chat GPT to create a role play with my characters and expand the lore of my world, then I used online tutorials to improve my rusty drawing skills and I started to draw and write the story. This whole creative (and at times, AI assisted) process helped me not only to dissociate but gave me an outlet to process my emotions
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Get a massage, go do some arts and crafts, see friends, pet a dog. Good luck OP
So what cups do you partner fill? Financial?
You should always have a life outside of a relationship. That’s what’s healthy. If you’re relying on your partner for 100% of your entertainment and emotional needs, that’s a problem. (No judgment, a lot of people do it without realizing it).
Hobbies, clubs, meet-ups, etc. Social media is actually a good way to join groups and meet people. What do you like? Reading? Art? Exercise? Look up groups on fb, reddit, or insta and go to meet-ups. It won’t happen overnight, but it’s a way to get out and meet people.
Go to conventions, city events, farmer markets, craft fairs, concerts, etc.
Volunteer. If you’re religious, look through your church or other local groups. If not, find local organizations that need help. Even animal shelters!
There is also nothing wrong with going out alone. Take yourself out on date night. Go to a bar, eat at a new restaurant, sit in a park. You don’t have to talk to anyone, but being out and about helps more than you think.
Again, this won’t happen over night, you have to work at it and really self motivate. It’s easy to stay home and hermit. It’s hard to go out and do new things. Everyone struggles with this in adulthood. So don’t feel like you’re the odd man out.
I deep dived into my own fantasy world. I used Chat GPT to create a role play with my characters and expand the lore of my world, then I used online tutorials to improve my rusty drawing skills and I started to draw and write the story. This whole creative (and at times, AI assisted) process helped me not only to dissociate but gave me an outlet to process my emotions