My bf (23M) expressed his feelings that he does not see me(22F) in his future for the 3rd time.
We have been dating for almost 2 years now.
His main concern is that we have small arguments and fights all the time. He said that we do not understand each other’s povs or we are not on the same page. Me on the other hand, had been compromising, understanding where he is coming from and very accepting of his habits but I am also a very sensitive person.
Everytime I ask questions about this problem, his answer to almost everything is “I dont know” or “I’m not sure”. He stated “I dont see a future with you and I also don’t see the future without you.” So he doesn’t know whether to break up or not. He also mentioned that he is scared to be lonely when we break up.
He is not in the right state of mind, what I see based on his actions is he is struggling mentally. He is showing signs of depression.
If we are good, we are perfect but if we argue he will think that we are not understanding each other and its becomes a big argument.
TL;Dr BF (23m) told me (22f) he does not see me in his future for the 3rd time. Is he just mentally unstable to be on a relationship or are we not meant to be?
Comments
Men are simple. Take it as it is and move forward. You are still very young. I was like you before I wasted my younger years waiting for someone to grow up hoping they’ll see my value but he didn’t. If its bothering you so much, its not worth it. You will one day resent him for not loving you enough or you will resent yourself for not being enough.
If he’s unsure about the future and keeps saying “I don’t know,” it’s tough to move forward. I don’t want to tell you what to do, but maybe take a step back and really think about whether this is the kind of person you want to build a future with, especially if he’s already this uncertain. You deserve someone who’s clear and emotionally ready.
It sounds like you know the answer unfortunately. If things aren’t meant to be, it’s horrible, but it’s life. You deserve someone that wants to build a future with you, and it sounds like he needs something that he’s just not getting. Neither of you are in the wrong, but it doesn’t sound like things are working out