I 23m found out my husband 26m was roleplaying.
I really don’t know how to feel about this or move forward, but I caught my husband roleplaying. I have set a boundary years ago I’m not comfortable with it. I’ve already caught him once after.
Now I caught him again, and not only did he try to lie to me that it wasn’t roleplay. He lied about it being sexual roleplay.
He deleted the messages telling me he was going to cold turkey off of roleplaying but he was just hiding them because he was roleplaying sexually.
I don’t know if to consider this cheating or what.
It feels like cheating cause he always tells me he has a low libido, and that’s why we don’t have sex. Come to find out he writes sex fantasy’s with strangers.
Am I getting upset about nothing?
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I view it as emotional cheating. It’s not even the fact that he’s cheating but he’s also actively trying to hide it and lying to you about it.
It is cheating. If you were to be sexually role-playing with another man, I assure you that your husband would be pissed and also see it as cheating.
I wouldn’t consider it cheating. If you set a boundary and told him you consider it cheating then yes. Typically cheating involves another person.
If he’s hiding it from you, and lying about it, whilst it may not be technically classified as cheating, it’s sure as shit not good.
I don’t think it’s necessarily cheating. If it makes you uncomfortable and you’ve set the boundary, that’s another issue. He needs to respect your boundary. What are they role playing? Like basic sex fantasies? Or like, things that could never be?
You have set your boundaries years ago and him hiding it sounds very suspicious. If it’s really a sexual roleplay, I would consider it cheating honestly. There is another person involved, it’s not really different from them sexting or something. Though I would suggest talking about it again to make sure you don’t act out of anger or disappointment.
What kind of roleplay? Is the dude playing GTARP? or sexy time ERP in the goldshire inn???
Its sex chat w friends or strangers.
It’s cheating.
It’s cheating. He hid it from you and is acting this roleplay fantasy out with someone else. If I were in your shoes this would be a final straw.
Cheating doesn’t have to be physical or emotional or even sexual. It’s talking to someone and hiding it from your significant other knowing that what you’re doing is unfaithful. If you felt like he wasn’t loyal to your love or relationship then what he did was wrong.
Can you forgive him? Will he do it again? What will stop him as long as you don’t know?