Standard in law story you’ve heard 1000 times, horribly behaved in laws who you just CANNOT do right by finally pushed me to my breaking point and I am SO DONE.
A list of some of their actions
-Multiple accusations accusations of me being unfaithful to their son and passing off children who are not his. (DNA tested and proven 100% THE FATHER not that it was ever in doubt)
-multiple drunken brawls/outbursts at family gatherings in front of my children
-nitpicking/nasty remarks of my parenting
EX. I am going to make my children fat by allowing them to eat until they’re full and not controlling their portions.
-nasty remarks about my parents and brothers lives
-lying to me and taking my children to places I explicitly forbade.
-telling my children how I am a sinner and am going to hell for not following their particular religious teachings.
– coercing my 8 year old son to “swear to papa and God” to join the military when he comes of age.
After nearly a decade of their shit I have had enough and completely cut the entire family off, I want NOTHING to do with these people, it’s been a couple of months and life has been so nice and peaceful not having to play referee to a bunch of obnoxious holier than thou drunks who think everyone’s lives should revolve around their mood.
I’m free!!!!
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They FAFO. I am so glad you have the peace you deserve, and your kids won’t be manipulated by these jerks.
Congratulations!!!
The natural questions are where was and is your SO in all of this and how did the in laws react, are they trying to break NC?
They sound like trash. Good for you!
What began as a break from my JustNoMom became permanent No Contact after I had a chance to step back and evaluate the relationship. And the peace was so very nice and I realized I did not lose anything positive by pausing the relationship.
And so I set the terms of any form of re-connection: she had to enter meaningful therapy before I would even consider rebuilding the relationship. That was the condition of re-connection.
And time passed and my world went from daily insanity to a steadily peaceful and predictable life – I was hooked. Crazy had been normalized for decades and now it was gone.
She didn’t enter therapy and we didn’t re-connect. No regrets. I had to save myself and I did.
Kudos for recognizing and rejecting a toxic relationship and protecting your kids from it too. This is not behavior you want modeled for your children.
Freedom feels so good — you will not ever want to give it up.