I posted about a week ago about a big (really stupid fight) about them wanting me to pay for a taxi home which would’ve got me home similar time to if I’d just got a train
It’s been tense since, both MIL and FIL have been on at my husband that I was in the wrong as a result they’ll never help us midweek again apparently
They’ve picked a fight that whilst I’m on nights this weekend, my husband isn’t going to their house on a whim because that’d mean I don’t see my son for three days.
They’re arguing because I’m going away for one night at the end of may without my son its selfish of me to prefer
To see my child when on the afternoons between nights
And honestly I’m just so ready to cancel everything we have booked in, they’d originally agreed to childcare for my night away in May (husband working) but I’m probably going to end up asking my parents to do it
We’re meant to be at there’s over Easter from Good Friday to Sunday but I just don’t want too anymore
We have a group chat and whilst I’ve responded to direct messages at me, I can’t be bothered on up keeping the relationship
My husband has been sticking up for me the entire time he has said it’s better for our son if he sees me this weekend rather than three days without me, he stuck up for over the stupid taxi argument but he doesn’t want to cut them out
I just don’t know where to go from
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You go no where with it. This is their issue not yours –they are throwing a tantrum because you decided to be an adult and make a decision for yourself without listening to them. If they want to call you selfish then so be it—have your parents babysit and don’t let them see your child—now that is “selfish” which I am sure will drive them crazy. Create boundaries and stick to them–they are trying to control your family
Drop the rope. See if your parents can watch LO, cancel Easter plans with IL. If they want to double down on the issues they created, cause chaos and keep pointing fingers at you, then you really don’t need that negativity in life. Their “help” isn’t help as it’s conditional upon a whim. Start maintaining boundaries and enforcing consequences.