My best friend of about two years (20F), Sophia and my best friend of about one year (21M), John are two of the most important people for me. For context, Sophia is in a relationship, John is not.
I hang out with the two of them every day, either one or the other or together and more friends. It is rare the times where is just the 3 of us, but the dynamic certainly changes.
I have noticed, and they have mentioned to me, that when the 3 of us are together and playing around, I seem to be a little dissociative or timid? I would say I’m a very social person but when I’m around the 2 of them I want to joke around and play but something stops me.
I talk about different things to them, and differently but I trust them a lot so what could be happening here? I’ve also recently realized I’m falling in love with John and I share a lot of my feelings with Sophia. Could it just be that I contain myself around him a bit?
TL;DR I’m very confortable alone with esch of them but not as much with the 2 of them together. What do you think could be the reason for that?
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It seems like your gut is sensing something, likely your feelings for John. When it’s just you and him, or you and Sophia, everything feels straightforward. But when all three of you are together, your mind might start to overthink things, especially if you’re trying to keep those feelings under wraps. That’s completely normal… your energy is just changing because your heart is in the mix.