Hi all. I’m a British born Chinese from Hong Kong. Recently single. For whatever reason I’m changing industries and (re)starting my career proper. Don’t know which country to even start.
UK: Own my own home, have cat, furniture and have a social network all over country. Easier to break into industry and opens road back to HKG in future.
HK: All my family is here, mum dead, see them weekends. Family pets too. Grandma is going strong but 90. No remote work.
My dad thinks that I shouldn’t make career decisions sentimentally. He reminds me that Grandma and pets won’t live forever and my sister will soon be married woman building her own life. He tells me family can always fly to visit each other. He says once I find a GF and/or start a family, that’s where my priority will be and stop worrying about my grandma and sister.
Yes I am more independent. But as I am 30, single, restarting my career and have no family nearby, so I can’t help but ignore the call of home. But home is moving back into my childhood home and reliving the short term high.
This is partly a vent, but I also want unsolicited advice from strangers.
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