Advice on potentially reporting abuse from 20 years ago?

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TW for SA

The short story is that I had a fling with my youth pastor (28F) when I was 17. She also had sex with several other boys in the youth group. One as young as 14.

I recently listened to a podcast called Lucky Boy about a similar situation that almost mirrors my experience dead on.

I’m over what happened to me, I’m good. What has me fucked up though is that nothing ever came of it, and what’s worse; she kept working in churches.

The last 20 years she could’ve been grooming and abusing boys and I could’ve prevented it. This is an entirely new perspective that I hadn’t considered. I feel sick with guilt over it.

The advice I need is do I say something to authorities or just let sleeping dogs lie? She’s 48 now, definitely still capable of predatory behavior and still has the looks to get her way.

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  2. johnandrew137 Avatar

    Damn, she’s out there doing the Lords work and you wanna snitch smh

    /s