My brother in law and I would talk politics regularly when hanging out but not exclusively … few weeks ago he went off about “Russia Russia Russia, all the court cases, and something else” then he physically pushed me and I fell … if it was anyone else I would have been standing more stable as he approached but I’ve known this guy for 15 years and whatever we’ve gotten heated about politics before but he just pushed me over
Got up, left haven’t talked to him since but I think he might be thinking of reaching out … fuck this guy – i guess I just want a bunch of people to tell me to ignore him or if i should give him a chance to explain himself
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What the hell! Press charges he assaulted you.
explain what? grow a spine
This is a press charges situation that
Have a beer with him and let him get it off his chest if he’s so inclined. You can both move on from this and avoid those awkward family get togethers.
Go for the jugular, set your wife loose on him. She can do far worse than what you can conceive
He would push you again if you did not align with his political views. I’m not a Democrat, or Republican, and I most aligned my views as an independent voter. The hell with soft-ass Democrats because they are too nice. Republicans are a bunch of morons and ass-kissers.
This is so subjective.. are you guys like best buddies prior to this? or just meet once a few months types thing where you discuss stuff? Or how easy is it to just ignore and block him out of your life? Either way.. I’d take my own sweet time to make him wait and apologize. Also depends on how he apologizes if i’d want to reconsider.. And even if i wanted to reconsider i would make sure he understands i get a free pass swing at him out of the blue. Its only fair!
Tell him politics and religion are off the table and if he ever puts a hand on you again you will be taking action, is that clear? So I know you are perfectly clear on this, what did I just say?
In future you walk away when either topic comes up.
Anyone who lays hands on me is my enemy for life. That asshole, at the least, would be frozen out of everything.
you got nothing to lose by giving him a chance to explain himself. You can still decide to cut him loose afterwards.
Age and gender would help
Was there alcohol involved
Was it a bit of a physical gesture, like “come on, buddy!”, or something that was obviously intended to knock you over?
It’s time to play the long game. You need to seduce him. Leave your wife and run away together. In 20 years you go on a fishing trip. While he’s on the side of the boat you tell him you never forgave him for pushing you. This has all been a lie. Push him in the water and drive off. Sweet sweet revenge.
Don’t be a woos. It wasn’t even a punch up? Right now politics are heated. Lots of division. Take the high road and let it slide. Rarely these things are just one sided and it’s always hard to have a fair perspective. Talk it out. Not the end of the world. Laugh it off. If it happens again then kick him in the balls.
Giving him another chance is a bad idea, especially since it sounds like you just got up and left, and didn’t stand up for yourself. If you give him another chance, from his perspective, he will see it as he can put hands on you to shut you up, repercussion free.
Party of violence. It checks out.
You are a better man than me for taking a push. A push is hands on. Family or not. A push means in his head, he has superiority over you since you did nothing. That is a bully tactic. You need to smash a bully immediately. That will always be there between the both of you now. I will get downvoted for this but we are animals no matter how we try not to be. Bullies are the worst kind of animal.
Because he is family, punch him in the throat. It will happen again because you let it happen once . He will not expect it .If he wasn’t family I would have biten his fucking nose off. Just the tip.
I could never ever imagine laying hands on someone over any discussion. This guy is an immature bully. Please teach him a lesson. I want to teach him a lesson.
Keep politics away from family. But let him know that was unacceptable
People that say don’t talk politics or religion believe in nothing.
Assault charges or if you’re in Texas……….
May I ask what exactly was the heated debate about, and what point have you been arguing, that he lost his self-control?
He has so little control over his emotions that he physically attacked someone over a political opinion, I wouldn’t let him around me or my family ever again
He assaulted you, over politics for god’s sake, and it could have ended very badly for you. I wouldn’t have anything to do with someone who has so little control over his temper.
I’ll take “things that never happened” for 500, Alex
What are your views on Russia and the court cases?
How did you express them in this situation?
Do you think these aren’t emotive subjects, especially in the traumatic early days of this presidency?
I don’t believe in second chances when things get physical. I’d tell him to fuck off.
BIL is in a US hating cult beyond redemption. All maga deplorable should be isolated.
Press charges
Cut him off completely. If he can’t have rational conversations without resorting to physical altercation, he’s a bad person and Simone you dint need in your life. Explain what happened to this close to you.
Hang around trash people and trash things happen.
No way – don’t accept the apology. Just an unspoken mancode- can’t do anything about it other than ignore and avoid. If it escalated into a physical altercation then there is something to discuss.
A family member doing that? How disrespectful and mentally unstable.
Avoid him and if he keeps pushing it, tell him you want to knock his teeth in. He’ll get the picture.
Ghost him.. there are times and places you will have to be near him say hi walk away.
I’m guessing OP is leaving out context. I doubt he sat quietly while only BIL worked himself up. Doubt if it was out of nowhere. Probably more a straw and camel scenario.
Let him have it. Full throttle. Any event with family. Make it know you don’t and won’t put up with the $hit. Otherwise, he will do it again.
Anyone who puts hands on you doesn’t respect you, care about you, or see you as thing more than an object to push around. Dont engage and leave that asshole in the dust. While your at it though, sign his cell phone number up for telemarketers like healthcare, religious groups and anywhere you dont also need to put your name. Make a fake email account if you have to as both are often required.